i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me
im so sad. should i be stressed
2007-08-01 14:19:58 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Forget about your friend,since she didn't invite you,what does that say of her opinion of you?
2007-08-09 08:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by †[L]oveless®† 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was trying to be considerate knowing that you probably couldn't come and didn't want to come across as trying to extract a gift from you. Turn the situation around and try to imagine it from her perspective. Being mad at her serves no constructive purpose so buy her a gift if you wish and send it along with a note telling her that you understand her predicament. Although, absent an invitation, I too live in Texas (Dallas area) so you could tell her you were invited to Texas by me and just thought you might drop by to see her while you're here. Cheer up! I'm sure she meant no harm.
2007-08-09 10:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be angry with her. There is quite a span between Minnesota and Texas. If you CAN just jump on a plane at any given time then wait till after she has the baby and visit her with arms full of gifts for the new mama and baby. Sounds like she was trying to be considerate, not leave you out. Gosh she has enough on her plate-don't stress her out by being defensive now. Sorry to say but that sounds a little selfish on your part.
2007-08-01 14:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't listen to these mean people.
If you CAN make it, just show up and surprise her. I bet she'd LOVE that. I can understand why she didn't invite you, and I can understand you being hurt, but....you are friends, she's having a baby and I bet she'd be thrilled to see you with or without a gift. If you can go....GO!!!!! Have fun!!!! Don't let a friendship go over hurt feelings. If you can't go, send her a gift card to a restaurant so she and her husband can go out after the baby comes. Long after the shower presents are opened, she'll have that to remind her of your friendship.
2007-08-01 14:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
In this case you are not obligated to send her a shower gift. I would suggest you wait until the baby is born to send a gift but only if she calls you or sends a birth announcement. If she does not , then too you are not obligated to send anything. It is not being mean, but she may be dissing you, time will tell..
2007-08-09 13:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by vivib 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see her point but ettiquette states she should invite you and so no gift necessary and have you just decline.
I think society is just moving away from old fashioned ettiquette. I can't tell you how many times. I put RSVP regrets only to find that people decline but fail to notify me. Makes for extra expense and food. Annoying.
As for what you should do. When you have major event milestones engaged, married, wedding/baby shower don't bother sending her an invitation. She'll understand!
2007-08-07 05:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do think she was thinking of you..... IF you did get a invite, could you go?? no, so wouldn't it look alittle like well, send me a gift. Let her off the hook. If you love her and all that, for get about it and enjoy the new chapter in your relationship as AUNTIE!!
2007-08-09 12:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by BELINDA B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she didn't think you'd be able to make it. After all lets face it minnesota is a long ways form texas.
2007-08-09 13:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Eugene 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a nice gift with a card of congratulations.
2007-08-01 14:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by collynn 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Be happy. She saved you 300 bucks for a plane ticket, and 20 bucks for a gift...lol.
2007-08-01 14:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sad, stressed !?
My God woman she did you a favor - take a chill pill and a nice bubble bath!
And thank her for being so considerate.
2007-08-09 13:26:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋