I imagine I'm opening myself up to a lot of rude answers but I could really use some advice. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, 3 kids, I love him very much. For some reason the past 3 weeks I have no sex drive. I can't stand to be touched, I don't want him near me. I have no sexual feelings whatsoever. I can't figure out my problem. I asked my doctor about it last week, he acted like I was crazy. My husband is a very attractive man, we get along great, we don't fight. Has anyone else experienced this, or someone you know? I would really like to find a solution here, thanks.
2007-08-01 14:14:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really appreciate all your help, thank you.
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2007-08-01 14:28:45 · update #1
I am 24 years old.
2007-08-01 14:29:51 · update #2
Having three children alone is enough to put a damper on your intimate life with your man, especially if they are small.
Couples just don't have enough time to be alone, "date".
No, you are not 'crazy'. Your Doctor should not have just ignored your statements. Did you just have a baby in recent months or other change? Sometimes, women get so tired of constantly being 'touched' by our kids, especially infants that just need some space. Your hormones might just be out of balance. Have you started any new medications?
Your husband might take your lack of interest as something wrong with him or rejection from you. Work on keeping some intimacy in your relationship. Make some time for you and your husband as a couple, get a sitter and date regularly.
Try getting some rest (hard with 3 kids), get some regular exercise, it helps boost those good hormones.
Maybe your GYN will be more informed about ways to help you. Don't let this continue, it will damage your relationship.
Most men relate feeling loved with physical touch, sex.
2007-08-01 14:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by joyh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of have. I had to tell my husband what was going on with me and let him know that I still loved him. My husband was great he held me and touched me with no sex. Slowly with all of that touching the feeling came back. When he touches you try to relax, remember this is your life partner and he loves you. Forget the kids and everybody just you and him. Try thinking about some of the great sex you had in the past. In fact find a babysitter so you 2 can be alone.
2007-08-01 14:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by moonchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons this could be happening to you. A traumatic loss or something as simple as your thyroid being inactive. Stress and/or depression can do the same thing. Have your doctor run some routine blood work and if it is all normal, take a few days away either by yourself or with your husband just to relax and get reaquainted with each other.
2007-08-01 14:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you doing the same old thing in bed? If so you probably need to try something new like the location. Even the time of the day. It could be something for right now. You'll get over it, just hope it's not a long period of time. Try a FULL BODY massage and I mean full. If you want chat about this later you can email me or IM me.
2007-08-01 14:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by DEMARCO A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but....it very well could be your hormones!! There seem to be a lot of women experiencing this at a younger age and it is due to hormone fluctuations.
Instead of talking with your regular doctor, make an appt. with your Gyn. There are trained more in this field than just a regular doctor is.
You are not alone, but there is help!
2007-08-01 14:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 5 years of marraige this is the first time you have noticed no sex drive? I wouldn't panic. You have 3 kids and a life... maybe you are not in the mood. Worrying about not being in the mood is not going to make it better. Just let it happen naturally, it is ok.
2007-08-01 14:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress, physical fatigue, same old sexual routine...All sex killers.
Take time to make time. I am assuming you have enjoyed sex in the past.
Take a vacation, rest. Set priorities which would act "to lesson current fatigue and stress.
Good sex is an essential part of most healthy marriages.
2007-08-01 14:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Randy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to another Doctor. One who will not disregard your health questions.
Have you recently been through something difficult?
Have you lost someone close to you?
Have you just had a child?
Have you just started or stopped hormones?
there are a lot of factors that could be contributing to your feelings.
It may have nothing to do with your relationship with your husband, but maybe you're internalizing something?
I would suggest speaking with a new doctor.
2007-08-01 14:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sumie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do talk with your OB/GYN about this problem. Although you don't give your age, it is possible you are in the early stage of menopause. My wife started it in her late 30s although we didn't figure that out until much later. She also lost complete interest in sex and takes no pleasure from my touch. As a result, we now live like brother and sister in the house.
Please do get medical help.
2007-08-01 14:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that it's because you guys are stuck in a rut? Meaning that you guys have done the same things for a long time. Maybe you guys need to spice things up!
How about going away for a weekend vaction just the two of you! Another professional person to talk with could be your obgyn - he/she might be able to help you!
Good luck in all you do!
2007-08-01 14:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋