Do I Do Too Much Of It?

Question

Actually, my problem is a little strange. I have three gal friends n it has happened twice that one or two of them thought that I was emotionally involved with one of them, but I was not n it was difficult to convince them. For the first time, I was just talking too much to one of them as we used to sit next to each other in office and shared earphones too often while listening songs n other such stuff. I rarely went out for lunch, then she also stopped going out for lunch n would stay back with me, I don't know exactly why, but I took it easy. But these things maybe caused a doubt in the mind of two other friends, both of them asked me specially if I was emotionally getting interested in that friend, I replied in negative but I felt they did not really believe. Then I consciously started to talk less with that friend n everything went back to normal. Now, a few days ago the same thing happened again.

I was talking much to another of the friends even while we were working at different places n just when I was planning to end it she was fired n was in distress so I continued to talk day in and out of her. I was even disturbed and missed sleep for a couple of nights when she discussed the topic of suicide n how people go in for it in such cases n things like that while saying all the time that shes strong enough to deal with it but I had my fears, but by God's grace everything went right n she landed another job after some time n I decided to talk less now to give both of us a little space as she was out of that negative phase both emotionally n practically. Just then, she met with a minor accident n had her toe fractured right on the second day of her new job n I found a little of the same gloominess in her... I kept talking more to keep her some kind of support n she also seemed to like it.... Now she has gone to her home in another state with her parents.

Now one of my friends had again come up with the same question for me if I am emotionally involved with this friend, but I replied in the negative. But I don't feel like she believes me, I don't know why they always feel like that. Is it that I do too much of it when I become a little more interactive, I don't know. ya, I do care for them but one of the reasons for such a thinking could be that I have no girlfriend as such so they might think that I could be headed in that direction when such is not the case.

Answer 1

Honestly you guys are a tad.... ignorant? rediculous? I mean what the heck are you trying to prove? OF COURSE YOUR EMOTIONAL ENVOVLED WITH EACH ONE!!!! If you gave any care to there feelings, your emotionally envovled. I'm not sure what there really asking about, I guess there wondering if your commenting to them or something. I don't know. This type of talk only comes around when the individuals believe in the old shallow romantic love and can't see how love is a many splended thing. But really buddy I don't know what kind of game your running here. It doesn't make much sense. Are you just trying to keep them around for sex? Are you having Sex with them? Do you always talk to them when they have a problem? Do they talk to each other at all? Is everyone in the same office? Really it would seem your best interest to explain to them that your emotional envovled with all of them, you just don't want to comment for whatever reason, because that would be more truth, then fiction. I mean if you weren't emotionally envovled you wouldn't be friends with any of them.
Never could understand why people think the words "I love you" is the only path to emotional envovlment?