We live in Virginia. The person (hopefully) receiving guardianship would be the step-mom
2007-08-01 13:07:40 · 7 answers · asked by aly_des 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had some trouble at the hospital with me signing for care despite a letter from my husband saying that I can. My youngest bonus daughter is multiply disabled and makes frequent trips to the ER for seizures. I am a SAHM and am her primary caregiver. Her mom is involved to the best of her ability (she just doesn't have what it takes to keep up with everything that is involved with a multiply disabled child. I'm being mean, it's just the truth) but doesn't even know the list of meds that child is on, let alone doctor info and emergency info. If the child goes to the hospital during the day, I am the one with her. Plus my hubby is going out of town for two weeks.
2007-08-01 13:33:33 · update #1
Colleen, I never ONCE said she was bad mom. She does the best she can with what she has. She is married, so it's not like she doesn't have a support system. I'm in no way trying to say anything that reflects badly on her...she simply does not have the ability to keep up with everything that is involved with the child...it's one of the main reasons why she does not have custody. The judge recognized that fact and gave custody to my husband.
2007-08-02 03:02:14 · update #2
There are varying types of guardianship in Virginia.
I fail to see the need for it, your wife should be able to easily obtain medical care etc for your child in the even tit becomes necessary.
If you are talking about adding the step mother as a legal guardian to make day to day decisions, then the answer is a resounding no, not so long as you know where the other biological parent is.
2007-08-01 13:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a step mom of three I have had to deal with the same issuse if you can get the mom to give you medical consent incase she or the father is not around then the doctors should except that. I have a letter from both parents but the doctors have never asked to see it. chances are if you don't say anything about it they wont either mine is a bit different since the kids were later signed over to me by the mom. But just ask your husband or you to type the letter or sometimes a court house will carry a form called Medical Consent Form then have the Mother have it noterized and that should do it. if she refuses. Call an attorny and explane they should e able to tell you what to do. chances are depending on how long you have been the primary care giver to the child even as a stepmom married to the father you could wind up with custody. Ya happended to me two weeks ago. Good luck
2007-08-01 14:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her father can not grand you guardianship unless the child's mother signs for it as well. Hopefully you have a decent relationship with the mother and she will be willing to sing guardinship over to you in order to maintain her child's health. Oh and her being ill equipped to take care of a child with multiple disorders doesn't make her a bad mom. Not all mother's CAN deal with such problems without a support system...YOU have the child's father...who does the mother have?
2007-08-01 16:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so. since the other parent has some custody, i think that they would have to be consulted in decisions regarding the child. maybe if the rights were terminated but other than that I think that the other parent has a legal say in all things regarding the child.
2007-08-01 13:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, since the chidren arent legally hers but she can adopt them but that would be only in a step mom capacity and would have no legal say so over their real mother, but would be a legal guardian when the kids were at your house and if you werent around.
2007-08-01 13:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you already understand how they say some thing like "We fell into one yet another's palms?" that in basic terms approximately actually befell with my mom and father. My aunt grew to become into shifting out of my grandparents' living house, and her buddy helped her circulate, and he knew my father, and so my father went alongside for the journey whilst my aunt's buddy helped her circulate, and my mom grew to become into tagging alongside for the journey, besides, and whilst my mom have been given in the back seat of the vehicle, my father grew to become into already sitting there together with his arm out and resting at the back of the seat, as though it grew to become into an arm relax, and my mom ended up sitting the place my father's arm grew to become into prolonged out. So, my mom and father met in the back seat of a automobile, with my father's arm around the place my mom sat down.
2016-10-09 00:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. JOINT LEGAL CUSTODY means they have to agree on everything that is not physical. down to what school you go to.
2007-08-01 13:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋