why should I not give up on my life even though it sucks, and I dont think it will ever get better?

Question

why should I keep living even though I'm a born loser/screwup who messes up everything and every relationship I've ever been ivolved in and have somehow hurt just about everyone who has tried to be a part of my life?

Answer 1

Because you might be wrong. I think you're wrong about at least one thing. You're not a born looser/screwup. Nobody is. That's a myth. Perhaps a product of your black and white thinking. There are no born-loosers and there are no great or perfect people. We're all just fallible f'd up human beings. We all have a beautiful side and an ugly side.
You just need some help that maybe you haven't found yet. Try therapy. If you don't like your therapist, try another one. They're not perfect either. Maybe try going to church. Maybe try talking to trusted friends about your innermost feelings. Maybe you'll find that they're not as bad as you thought.
Try to look at the positives in your life. Just because your relationships haven't lasted forever doesn't mean they're worthless. You've managed to stay alive this long. That's better than some people. Everyone's hurt people at some point in their lives. That doesn't mean they're bad people. They've just done some bad things. See the difference?

Answer 2

Well, just about everyone that's tried to be part of your life has hurt you, too. That's just the human condition. You seem very young. The reason that teenagers commit suicide when they feel this way is that they haven't lived long enough to know (right to the marrow of their bones) that sometimes you're the pigeon and sometimes you're the statue. You wrote "I don't think it will ever get better." Not to insult you, but sad, depressed people don't always think clearly about their own condition. Because you might be wrong, you need to go on living.

You go on living because life gets better. Even when it doesn't get objectively better, your mood will rise and it will seem better. You just have to wait. In the meantime, eat good food, not junk, walk/run outside everyday and find someone who needs something you can do. Go to the animal shelter and give the pets human contact. Go to a nursing home and read to elderly folks with bad vision. Go to a feeding program and make sandwiches and dish up canned peaches.

If you stay busy, you give the world a chance to get better for you. As long as you don't make any big decisions--(probably bad ones) about drugs, gambling, sex, crime, spending on credit, joining a cult; you'll be better soon or able to think more clearly about what to do.

Answer 3

Sounds like me about 4 yrs ago. What may be happening is that you live for someone else. Take time to view what you want, not what you want from the other person. Make decisions based on how you want to be, and what you would like to become. But like your parents say, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Keep some for another day! You have the ability to be and become whatever you want. Sounds lke a pipe dream huh? It's not! Your the only one that can keep you happy. It's in ur head, when you don't do something right, you learn, and move on to something else. Then when the time comes again with the same situation, you know how to beat it. You are human, your allowed to make mistakes; everyone does, and the only thing that can prevent you from doing that: is what you don't really want to do. "Have faith for you are my son." Sounds like bible talk? Yeah! Didn't work for me either. But when I took time to relax, it DID! Don't give up! Even though you may feel weak, everyday you grow stronger by dealing with the things you least desire. As far as relationships, you didn't screw it up, it just wasn't the one you should be in. Not now. The survival is the hardest, but the rewards are continuous! Trust a stranger for once.

Answer 4

You are thinking in a negative ways. First, and I know this is difficult, but you have GOT to change the way you see yourself and the world around you. All change starts with you. Second, pick up the phone and call someone. Try talking out these feelings/thoughts. Try seeing a therapist as well, because it seems possible that there may be things here that need exploring.

Answer 5

...because you are wrong. There is a point in everyone's life who feel like the biggest loser on the face of the planet. I felt that way too, and I know my friends did too. Just go on with your life, and see where it will take you. Life is a journey, stop judging yourself and just go with the flow. I am sure your journey will take you somewhere nice at the end. So don't give up, don't turn back, just keep going forward ;-)

Answer 6

Don't end you life. Change it. No one is born a loser. Work on making better choices and setting realistic goals for your life. Focus on happiness and those who love you won't be disappointed.

Answer 7

well b-c you will never know what life has to offer and killing yourself is the worst thing you could do cause its stupid, my ex boyfriend thought he was a screw and a everything and he thought he was born like that too, but really he wasnt and you probably arent either, dont be selfish and kill yourself, killing yourself if very dumb, and you arent dumb so dont do it, I have been suicidal before and sumtime I am just out of random things that happen like after break ups, but see my juggalo bro died so I have something to live for, and look forward to, I wanna be able to get married, have kids, see what kind of job I have, and do a bunch of stuff, so dont do it, there are things instore for you just wait.

Answer 8

because life is always suprising. ive learned to never think that i am some all knowing being to the point where i can predict my future because i am always suprised.

Answer 9

theres going to be happiness. Please don't give up on life! theres a plan rfor you and soon, you'll find happiness. Yes there will still be bad days, but keep your head up