My husband is due to go on deployment in 2 months and he wants to get me pregnant so that wen he comes back he can see me give birth. our first son is only 6 months and i really am not ready to have another baby yet...i want to wait til my son is at least 4 or 5 becuz im only 18 and right now i am trying to concentrate on going to college to get my degree. but he doesnt understand...right now i am handling the responsibilities of being a mother, a wife, a full time employee and i am currently taking college courses online...my plate is full...there is no room for another baby...but he doesnt get it...how can i make him understand????
2007-08-01 12:43:13 · 17 answers · asked by CoCoBrown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel , listen to how he feels.
2007-08-01 12:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to one cute boy! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and explain to him that you are under a lot of pressure right now. Having two babies in the house is a lot of any woman, much less when you are 18.
Let him know that you need to commit yourself to him, your baby, your job, your college and bettering your future and that you're just not ready for another baby at this time in your life, but in a few years, you will be ready to add an addition to your family.
Let him know that you love him very much and plan on having more of his children, but that now is not the time. Besides that, it takes almost a year for the female body to completely recoup from carrying a baby and giving birth. Having children too close together causes health risks.
I wish you the best, but if you are not ready, don't let him talk you into it.
2007-08-01 13:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get on birth control without him knowing and when you don't get pregnant you can tell him at least you two tried. Men are sometimes hardheaded and instead of wasting your energy arguing about it just pretend to go along with it. He should know sometimes it takes more than 2 months to get pregnant. He just doesn't realize that it will be very hard on you when he is gone. Being pregnant with a baby working and taking classes and to top it off missing and worrying about him that will be too much for you. Hope my answer helps.
2007-08-01 19:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 10:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by courts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you're not ready yet. Your plate is too full and obviously he doesn't make enough money to support you and your children without you working. And, I personally wouldn't recommend that you quit your job or stop taking college courses. You need a back-up plan, just in case something happens. If he can't understand that, then say, I'm sorry.
2007-08-01 16:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he don't understand and all the information you gave us is true. You made the mistake of marring a boy not a man. Boy's don't get to do the baby making act even with protection. A real MAN will insist that you are both ready befor making a new life.
So now you have that charge.
2007-08-01 13:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him flat out no -not yet. That you think it would be irresponsible for you to have another child right now. Tell him you guys have the rest of your lives to have another baby and he can be there once he gets out of the service. Are you sure there's not another reason? Like he thinks if he keeps you pregnant you won't be sleeping around on him while he's gone? Maybe he has insecurity issues there?
2007-08-01 12:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a little insecure about what you might be doing while he's away and wants to ensure you won't be fooling around. Selfish of the boy. Your body needs time to heal and your baby needs your attention. You have needs, too such as completing your education. Don't give into his demands! Reasure him of your love and devotion but don't let him force you into putting more stress on yourself. Your doing a great job doing what your doing now. Don't really see how you could do more!
2007-08-01 13:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rosemary's Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him in charge for the weekend and go somewhere with girlfriends. Make sure they bring their kids over for him to take care of. By the time you all get back, I bet he will understand a little better!!
2007-08-01 12:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by oldknowitall 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you take those birth control pills he will have little control. So unfair already he leaves for overseas and he wants you to raise two kids by your self. He's selfish.
2007-08-01 13:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him "I don't want another baby right now", and keep on taking your birth control. What is he gonna do - divorce you? He needs to back off.
2007-08-01 12:55:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋