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I'm a 16 year old girl .That like to have fun BUT my mom and dad dont let me do anything .And i get good grades and i do everything for them and i mean everything .all they want me to do is be by there side work 4 them 4ever. i just want to know .what age can a i make my own decisions?with out
getting in trouble..

thank you

2007-08-01 12:26:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

14 answers

18...and you're legal...

2007-08-01 12:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jacques 5 · 0 0

You should have been participating in decision making concerning your life already. The final decision is always the parents until you're 18.

Maybe your parents need to go to a parenting class for teenagers. Try researching the net for some or ask a school guidance counselor. Also, if your parents are religious or have strict family values that are behind them being so hard on you then you have to approach them in another way.

Religious parents extend the line of trust by seeing you in a safe and approved environment, at a fun church function or church member's home or spending time there.

Family values stem from way back when your parents were being raised. It's kind of hard to get them out of that mindset especially if their parents are still around and encouraging it.

In either of these cases, try getting to know people who have the like minds of your parents but who have raised children who are a little bit or older than you are. See if their enlightening your parents gets you some lead way.

Also, try getting to know other teens who your parents will trust either by having an invite-over of the teens and their parents so that your parents can get to know them and become a part of the connection which will allow you to have a little more freedom.

Lastly, continue being the good child that you are. Don't be angry, bratty, or ungrateful. Fighting that way never works. Not even for adults. :)

Hope this helps.

2007-08-01 12:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

18

2007-08-01 12:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

16 is an age where parents are still trying to decide whether to let go or not. The world is scary and even though your eyes may not be open to all the bad things your parents eyes are. They will do what they can to keep you safe.
If you have proven yourself trustworthy and have the ability to make mature decisions they will let you start going out more and more. Sit down and talk with them adult to adult. I stress the adult. Whining and pouting isn't the way to prove you are mature enough to be let out to have fun.
Let them know what you are up to, who you are with and how long you plan on being out. I would expect you to respect a curfew if you got it as well to further prove you are reliable. If there is situation where you need to be later explain why you will be later and again who else is there with you.
Do they know your friends? do they know their parents? Do they know what you mean as "fun"

There are people out there that can be called "friends" and those that you associate with. It makes a difference when it comes to teenage "fun". Does the fun include a house party with no adults? underage drinking and smoking? Drugs?

Parents want the best for their kids and I know that it is hard to accept sometimes. Just make sure to be an adult and to be prepared to point out the pro's to your point of view.

2007-08-01 12:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Eq2Kitty 3 · 0 0

Making good decisions is a life-long learning process.
Your parents have much more experience at that so far.
From 14 to 18 you will learn tp make some decisions.
These will probably be pretty safe ones, if they can trust.
Parents often have a hard time allowing children freedom.
There's a lot of trouble waiting you out there.
They just want to keep you safe.

2007-08-01 12:33:58 · answer #5 · answered by Robert S 7 · 0 0

Well that all depends on your state. And what choices you want to make. In Alabama a child is not considered an adult until they are 19, in most states its 18. It is then you can beheld accountable for your own actions, can sign a contract and live on your own without the benefit of your parents.
Sorry hun but unless you want to push it in a court of law and declare yourself independant and pay your own bills, you are a child until you are at least 18.

2007-08-01 12:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by mms4resprnts 2 · 0 0

Negotiate for time off.

The ultimate problem is that until you are 18 and legally an adult, you are stuck with however your parents are raising you. Once you are 18 (and graduate), you can leave. Save your pennies. Some parents are very controlling and don't want to let go. You need the $$ to move out.

2007-08-01 12:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0 0

this is neither suitable nor incorrect. parents ought to settle for that there comes a ingredient once you have carried out each and every thing you're able to do strengthen your infants to be the main suitable human beings they are able to be, and that includes having the know-how to make a call. with the help of the time you're that age, you ought to be responsive to your guy or woman ideas properly adequate to be responsive to what you suspect. besides which, the alternative isn't irrevocable. on the different hand, take it from somebody who isn't the religion that her kin is, faith is a very unifying or devisive ingredient interior of a kin. once you adjust your faith, you're of their minds asserting which you do no longer prefer to affix what they are anymore, you do no longer fee their rituals, their traditions, and so on. there are distinctive saint days and festivities that are area of the Catholic church that are no longer going to be aspects in a "Christian" church (I hate that ingredient era. Like Catholics are not Christians?). i think of the main suitable ingredient so you might do is to maintain greater or much less on the down low out of appreciate for now. countless Catholics leave the church partly because of the fact the doctrine is so restrictive. you're no longer so diverse. For what this is worth, i'm an Episcopalian and that i think of it might have the main suitable of the two worlds for you. on the only hand, it has countless a similar liturgy as Catholicism, even though it particularly is a Protestant church meaning that their attitudes approximately specific concerns are greater versatile and that i've got continually discovered it to be very tolerant of guy or woman interpretation. It additionally does not believe which you are going to no longer be able to talk to God effectively without priest in between you and....Him.

2016-11-10 23:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

it depends on what sorts of decisions you're wanting to make. they should already be letting you make some...

2007-08-01 12:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well sweets...sorry but u gotta wait til 18

2007-08-01 12:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by Baby B 3 · 0 0

18 unless you go to court to have yourself emancipated from your parents then you are responsible for yourself.

2007-08-01 12:28:58 · answer #11 · answered by pocahontas80_1999 3 · 0 0

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