She paid for the hotel and food, had sex in my car, in other public places, anal sex and caught STD's. We have been married for 15 yrs and she never was this wild with me. She was talking with my boys on the phone while they were sick telling them mommy can't come home right now, because I am working and lots to do and she was with her sex buddy while talking to them. I understand being curious, but why all the wild sex. She is 38. If I leave, all the investments for the kids will disappear, becuase I will not be able to afford them anymore. Its hard. I forgive her, but should I really give her a second chance?
2007-08-01 12:23:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you can answer that, I'm afraid. A lot of it depends on her current attitude...if she's remorseful, and wants the marriage to work, she should get some counseling...possibly both of you. She married pretty young, so sometimes people repress desires/curiosities/dreams of things they never got to do, and just lose it all one day....even if it takes 15 yrs.
Her behaivor is not acceptable, if she wants to stay married, and be a good mother, but I always believe there is hope....if that's what she wants, too.
2007-08-01 12:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Dj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a really hard decision honey. The real question is can you forgive her and do you love her. No matter what she has done, if you love her and want to be with her, it doesn't matter what she did. I am not going to tell you to get a divorce because marriages do survive these things. Is she wanting to stay? If she is then talk to her and instead of asking her why she did it, ask her what's missing in the relationship. She may have done these things because things have become complacent or a wild side was bought out of her. Either way it goes sh did it for a reason and if you two are going to work it out then you need to communicate. Just remember not to force anything because then one of you will shut down. Good luck.
2007-08-01 12:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 10:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive learned from experience that love can be very painful. the easiest answer would be to leave her, but life is far more than running away from problems. you both said for better or for worst. honestly, i think that you two should work it out amongst yourself. getting an std is something very devastating but its all a matter of if you want your relationship to work. do you love her??? does she love you??? if the answer is yes to both, i think you both should do whatever it takes to make things OK,. (this all depends upon if she is sorry for what she has done.)
2007-08-01 12:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by kandycisses 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you might be able to forgive, but, you'll never forget..also, you didnt say if she was remorseful or anything...cant tell you what you should do, but , I know what I'd do... and when I was through, I'd be in jail a lil while for it.. sorry things turned out this way for you.
2007-08-01 12:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Up to you, but if she did it once, she's likely to do it again. And she certainly not a good example for the kids
2007-08-01 12:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by robert43041 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STDs that's serious..i would leave..AIDS maybe on the way..how stupid was she to have sex without condoms. she was careless
2007-08-01 12:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would she have given you a second chance?
2007-08-01 12:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by http://www.wrightlawnv.com 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, once she did it did, she is lieable to keep on doing it
2007-08-02 05:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Meh. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should let her go and find a girl for ur self.
2007-08-01 13:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Neetam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋