Do all married men do this?

Question

Do all married men do this?
Men, you finally are going to tackle the task your wife has (griped) asked you to do and then you whine about how you don't have tools to do the job properly?! What are you expecting?! Please enlighten me!!

I do a lot around the house, paint, drywall , landscape, and dig just as much, I'm wondering why this one small task is such a big deal...called laziness on my part I think!

Answer 1

Expecting that you would be happy with our half a$$ed job...lol
HONESTLY

Answer 2

It isn't always obvious to people that don't use a lot of tools, but there are thousands of tools out there that accomplish thousands of different tasks. It is very common to start something and then find out you don't have the right tool to get the job done (even when you have a $5,000 tool box in the garage). Sometimes there are ways to get around it with what you have and sometimes there aren't.

In cases where I've said such things, it has typically been because I had to stop the job and procure the right tools or risk doing the job poorly. Having what could have been a 2 hour project turn into a 2 week project is frustrating. Some times it is because I don't think I can do the job without the tool and the right tool is expensive. Some times it is because I want my wife to know that the task is challenging and I would like a little extra appreciation for doing it. A kiss and a thank you go a long way toward making a man feel better about having spent an hour under the house cutting a pipe with a hack saw when he could have done it in 3 minutes with a cordless sawzall that isn't in the budget.

There are often expectations by women that all men know how to fix a car and build a house. Most of us have limited skills in some part of those areas. We get a big ego boost from that perception right up to the point where we are expected to prove it... LOL... So if you walk by my house while I'm working on the car just keep in mind that I whine because I'm mechanically inclined but not a mechanic.

Answer 3

No, not all men & definitely not all the time -- if that were true, then nothing would ever get done ... except like Wayne said (beer drinking and ESPN on the TV while he lay on the couch all day/night). If I was asked to do it, I'd take a look at the job, make an assessment if I had the materials, right tools, etc. for the job. If not, then I make a note about it to get what I need to do the job. I check the calendar and select a time/date to accomplish the task at hand.

Now, as to the whiners, I can see your point about some people ;-) & the appearance that they simply don't want to do the job or maybe can't do the job (and won't say anything about it -- like asking for directions LOL).

Answer 4

See this is the funny part .....

We men do use it as an excuse to go get some cool new tools. Just as women use a social function as a reason to go get a new dress, new shoes, new earrings, etc....

Also - griping about is ABSOLUTELY the way to get your man to do things. It sure produces great results.

Might I suggest asking for him to do the task while you're naked in bed with him - I bet you don't have to ask twice. If you do, then repeat the process.....

The task might not get done, but you'll both be much more happy without the task completed :)

Answer 5

Yes, of course. ALL married men do this.

I'm expecting that if I put it off enough and then whine about not having the tools, then you'll do it instead.

And I can get back to my beer drinking on the couch, watching ESPN.

Duh!

Answer 6

oofdah! Seems like the Scottish blood is running hot! Well friend, not all of us do this but some do look for a convenient excuse to get out of work. Perhaps he needs some training or maybe some "firm" convincing?

Answer 7

Yes all men do that. The only difference is at least your husband attempts the task! Here I have to do it all!

Answer 8

My hubby always takes a while to do something...okay, I have to gripe about it for a while, but he will finally get tired of me saying something about it and just go do it to shut me up! LOL

Answer 9

Mine always has the right tools. He just never has the time until it breaks and becomes a big problem.

Answer 10

i just use that task as an excuse to go buy the new tools i need and want

Answer 11

i know what you mean, i did just as much work as my hubby did, including dry wall and sanding, plus all the clean up but if i ask him to do 1 thing its a crime or some kind of a sin!!