my man and i have been living together for 1 year and lately since he started his new job he has been coming home late... about one hour or more.... he is working grave yard.. do you think he is cheating???? he ask more lovely with me.. is it his concious.....
2007-08-01 12:20:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont jump into conclusions... Try to observe, make a little investigation...You might be wrong.......or....you might be right.Before its too late, make your moves now.. GOODLUCK GIRL
2007-08-01 12:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like some bad communication skills. You house is being foreclosed on... why? Cheating can mean the heart is not in the marriage anymore, but it can also be a response to stress or feelings of emasculation. If he's making less money than he used to, or you are now making more money than he is, if you are working more, etc. Communication has to happen all the time. You have to stay on the same page and you've got to dig for your partener sometimes and go out of your way to show you are still paying attention and still care. If you are not guilty of any of these things and there is no reason why the mortgage hasn't been getting paid... well... then maybe he's nearing a midlife crisis... or he just doesn't love you anymore... if he's not willing to admit that he is cheating, there isn't much you can do. you can talk to this woman and see what she can tell you and if she is not responsive, share the info with her husband and see if he has come across anything suspicious. This will be helpful in the event that you require a divorce. If you confront him with all the evidence that he is cheating and he still won't admit any wrong, then counseling would still be out of the question... with divorce being inevitable. I think the fact that he didn't pay the bills gives you a pretty good case for getting rid of him... and my gut (and probably yours) is telling me that it's an affair.
2016-05-20 03:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be trying to prove himself at his new job by putting in extra hours. He could also be very happy with his job and that is why he is more loving towards you. I have had jobs in the past that I did not like and I would always take it out on my husband. Now for the past 1 1/2 yrs I have been working a job that i LOVE and I show it big time.
Dont stop trusting him just yet. Make sure you have a good reason first! It could be nothihng and if it is nothing, you will only look bad in the long run.
2007-08-01 12:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Tay_Chanel said. I come home late sometimes. I'm a pipe fabricator with alot of things to be done in so little time. Since he started this job, and it's new, he will be willing to show his integrity and value to his employer as much as possible if he cares about you, and his career. If it becomes one. You guys live together, that means alot too him, and shoulsd show you he's not playn with ur feelings. I get in trouble sometimes for coming home a little later than expected, but my pay check doesn't lie. Plus she loves the extra pay :) Don't be so hard on him
2007-08-01 12:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by mellowguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Are there other signs besides him coming in late? It could be that he is not getting out of work on time, he could be hitting traffic, etc.
Have you talked with him to ask him why he is coming home so late?? It could be something totally innocent and you don't want to jump to conclusions just yet. Find out the facts before you react!
I wish you the best.
2007-08-01 12:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to work the graveyard. I don't think he's cheating on you. After work I would always stop and get a beer or eat breakfast. But after a long night I didn't want to go straight home. Although sometimes I would fall asleep in my car.
2007-08-01 12:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by arsehole_adam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its a new job and he started coming home late since the first day he started...then i would say probably not...any how if you really think he is cheating i would look for more signs than just his coming home late
2007-08-01 12:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by CoCoBrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is only cheating if you go to his work and he is not there, and the next day you follow him and see where he is really going and catch him in a hotel room doing things he shouldn't be doing with someone other than you. you can't assume things like this, it will only take over your life. you never know what he really is doing. that is what trust is about. just ask him why he's late.
2007-08-01 12:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It soesn't mean he's cheating. He could very well be working late. It is a new job. Trust him hon until you get a real reason not to. Like his girlfriend lying on you.
2007-08-01 12:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. Maybe he's a night person and is still awake when he gets home. I'm a night person and am more loving when I get home late than if I get up early.
2007-08-01 12:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Frosty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, what did he say he was doing. Of course, he might being cheating.
a. You can put a remote GPS on his car (not budget friendly ~$500)
b. Spy on him or just give some kid $20 to do it for you (kids love to do this kind of stuff)
c. Hire a PI
d. Suprise him with flowers or whatever
e. im out of stupid ides
2007-08-01 12:24:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋