I have this friend who is an alchoalic in my opinion. She goes to a bar three to four times a week. Drinks at least six to eight drinks of alchoal. She weighs over two hundred pounds and was recently diagnoised with an elevated liver problem. Every time I suggest we go hang out somewhere else she does not listen and she goes to the bar. It like alchoal is her life. I have not spoke to her about my concerns. I doubt she will even listen. Should I back off from her and give her her space until she gets her life back on track?
2007-08-01 12:19:23 · 4 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes, because most alchoholics are in denial of their problem, you voiced your concerns, if you call her parents and they tell her you called, then this will begin a dispute-
Best you can do is ACT- actions speak louder than words, if she begins to lose her friends one by one, she may then see that something is wrong and maybe take a look inward at herself and realize what she has been doing not just to herself but to others as well. She will only drag you down with her, if she ever questions you, just be honest- tell her that seeing her this way upsets you, you are concerned for her health, well being and safety and you are scared for her. And being around her when she does this makes you feel very uncomfortable.
{{hugs}} for trying with this girl, it is a shame she cannot see what a true friend she had in you, maybe now the blindfold will be lifted before something bad happens. Steer clear and be safe.
2007-08-01 12:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by brandy2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you back off, without saying anything, what makes you think she will get her life 'back on track'? If anything, I think you leaving her will just make her drniinking worse?
I think you SHOULD speak to her about your concerns. She most probably won't like you saying it but sometimes it takes a bit of harsh reality to make someone wake up to themselves.
Tell her you are concerned and that you are no longer willing to accompany her to the bar anymore, as it upsets you to see her drinking so much.
Maybe, just maybe, it might make her think?
After you have voiced your concern if she continues to want to go to the bar all the time then you should stop going with her. Chances are that she won't want you going with her anymore anyway because you make her feel guilty for drinking.
She sounds like she does have a problem.
GOODLUCK!
2007-08-01 19:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by familyties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you wasting your time on someone who would rather drink than have some real fun?
2007-08-05 18:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatly
2007-08-01 19:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by ozzenator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋