I slept with someone that I had known for 3 weeks. I finally told who I thought was my best friend. He was angry, and really hates the guy. He started calming down and we talked. Everything was cool after that, sorta. Just recently he misunderstood something and took it to mean something it didn't. He got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me. We've been talking on MySpace and now he says I'm stupid, a whore, the guy used me, the guy doesn't care about me (even though I know the guy better than he thinks, and I know he didn't use me and I know he cares about me, and my friend has never met him), and he doesn't want to talk to me or for me to come to his house (although I'm going to try because he's not my only friend there). Is he a true friend? What should I tell him?
2007-08-01 12:05:48 · 17 answers · asked by ga18leanne2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I want to know if he's a true friend, and what I should tell him to get him to stop being so mad. He wants me to tell him why I decided to sleep with the guy, I told him I was caught in the moment and he told me to not talk to him or go over their house until I came up with a "real" answer. That is the true answer, and I don't know what to say.
2007-08-01 12:09:05 · update #1
I've told him many times it shouldn't bother him because it's my choice. I know he likes me, he told me after I told him what happened. I have told him the real reasons why I slept with the guy. I know he doesn't think I should have slept with him because he's not that kind of guy, he wants to wait until he's married. The guy I slept with ended up going to Kuwait, thats another reason he's mad.
2007-08-01 12:18:36 · update #2
He isn't your Dad.... Tell him to chill. I swear, why do friends always think that they should have an opinion? Tel him that unless he is sleeping with you, he has no say. - BTW, He does want you to be his....
2007-08-09 11:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I feel strongly is that he is a sincere friend of urs no matter what these guys say here coz its easier to think that a person is jealous of someone else rather than thinking that he maybe actually concerned about ur well being n long-term happiness. I think u should not see him or meet him coz u think whatever u have done is for right n he feels otherwise n u don't have any special reason to explain why u slept with that guy so just face the facts n tell ur friend that u can't meet him anymore coz u can't explain why u slept with that guy. Moreover, the real question that should have been on ur mind is that how can u be so sure that the guy who slept with u is really ur true friend...... think about it............
2007-08-01 12:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. To me it honestly sounds like this friend of yours is pretty jealous. A lot of times when friends get jealous they act mad because they believe you made a mistake and that they would be better for you. I have a friend just like this. My suggestion is to give your friend some time to cool down and then just talk to him. Talk to him about why it makes him so mad when it's your decision who you sleep with, if it is cause this guy has feelings for you, then you will have a whole new problem to deal with. But I would give him space and then just talk to him about why he is so mad and you can talk to him about how you really do know this other guy and it shouldn't bother him what you do in your own time.
2007-08-01 12:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is in love with you and mad 'cause gave away something precious that was meant for your husband, not some random guy who you only knew for 3 weeks. Your friend is right, but he seems really upset. I would not just forget about him. I would keep trying. Don't be sleeping with random guys you barley know anymore...plz. Good Grief!
2007-08-08 22:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. CT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he felt that you two were in a relationship and now he's jealous. Maybe you should evaluate your feelings for him. I dont think he's going to be happy with just being your "friend" for too much longer. I wouldn't update him on your bedroom activities from here on out.
2007-08-09 07:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you only knew the guy for 3 weeks you shouldnt have slept with him.... and obviously your friend really cares about you and maybe he's jealous because he wants you but...i dont know. ive never been in this situation cuz i dont sleep with people after knowing them less than a month.
2007-08-09 04:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by haley b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fact is , your buddy is in love with you .He has been for a while. Any guy you date is never gonna meet his standards.
Gain love. Lose a friend. Who matters to you most?
2007-08-09 11:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Andyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a friend he is just acting that way because he is jealous. He likes you a lot more than a friend.
2007-08-09 07:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by XxnikkirosexX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes jealous and wants you\
tell him the real reason and find out why he wanted to know the real reason
2007-08-01 12:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to one cute boy! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend has a crush on you and he's trying to hide it becasue he wants you for him self so he getting upset when you date other guys so talk to him
2007-08-09 06:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋