2007-08-01 11:57:08 · 27 answers · asked by Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a young couple needs to live alone and have their own family. After we get older and have lived our lives there may come a time when we might find our self having to care for a parent. As for now, I believe it would be best to have your own private lives. If she is sick and does not have a home, I would find her a place near by where you can visit, but you need your private time for a healthy marriage.
2007-08-01 23:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wife #1: Started as platonic roommates (I was renting spare bedrooms and she was a tenant), started dating, should have stopped, but it's hard to breakup with someone when you live together. Poor 12 year marriage, constant fighting. Wife #2: Dated 2 years before proposing, bought house together 3 months before wedding. Strong 11+ year marriage. It's easier to end the relationship when you're living apart. The first couple of years dating is when you're practicing and checking out the other person it's best to do so in an easy to terminate situation. I'd live apart until you are at least engaged and don't get engaged until you've been dating for at least 2 years.
2016-05-20 03:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the mother or mother-in-law. I would want my mother to live with us if she needed to, especially if she was sick or something. If it was my mother-in-law, I would go out of my mind. But I do know a family where it works. The Mom & Dad got married, moved in together & then moved in with her parents when they had financial difficulties. They had 2 kids, while still living there. The grandmother loves having them there, as she is a widow. They have been living all together for about 20 years & are happy. The grandmother is very easy to get along with too & I think their ethnic heritage has a lot to do with why it works for them. But in general, it's a disaster waiting to happen, if you ask me!
2007-08-01 12:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the couple, but mainly if a couple has been together for a while, and has good coping and compromising skills, and has really talked through the pros and cons, then I suppose they could handle mother or MIL living with them. I think it might be pretty stressful though.
2007-08-01 13:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better than my opinion of married families living with the mother. there comes a point in time where the child is supposed to support his or her mother, because she did the same for them. but when that child gets married and still lives with his or her mother and mooches off of them with another person in the house, THAT is wrong. get out. you said you were an adult when you got married, now prove it.
(not you, but you as in whoever falls into this category.)
2007-08-01 12:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad's mom lived with us for about 5 years when I was growing up. It turned out badly. My grandmother meddled in how we were being raised and would get my sister and I into trouble because we weren't working 24/7 like she did in early 1900's growing up on the farm (mind you she lived with us back in the 80's - in the suburbs - and even all the house chores we did weren't enough to satiate her work-lust). She caused problems between my parents. Eventually my mom ended up asking her to leave and I helped my grandmother find a place to live.
Mind you we all still get along and love grandma. Just so long as she's not living with any of us. She's now 96 - still living alone, and we all take turns caring for her. So her living with us didn't ruin our relationship with her.
2007-08-01 12:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on how old the couple are and whether or not they have just gotten married. If they are a young couple, NO WAY as they need their space to do their own thing. If its a much older couple who have been married for awhile, then maybe as they are more settled.
2007-08-01 12:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the reason, and is it temporary? Is it for medical reasons, (i.e she can no longer tend herself?) If so, it is fine. If it is due to a divorce and is temporary, have pity. But if it is just to be nosy, dont let it happen. Find out the reasoning before making a decision.
2007-08-01 12:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the situation. There are alot of people whose mothers live with them due to old age, lack of money and unable to take care of themselves.
2007-08-01 12:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother lived with us for 20 years before she died.
My parents and my grandmother had rules for privacy they did not cross.
My grandmother didn't interfere in the raising of the grandchildren.
Just like everything else.....it depends on the people involved.
2007-08-01 12:17:30 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋