My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and have known e/o for 8. I'm 18 and he's 21. We are in love and he just got a new job that pays $40,000 a year, and his parents have an extra apartment in the city for us to live in. We both want to get married but I'm his first girlfriend and he's my second boyfriend. Are we too young? Should we date other people first? I've mentioned dating other people first to him and he usually breaks down and asks why I would want 2 meet other ppl when I love him?
2007-08-01 11:15:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have to ask total strangers if you should get married than you shouldn't get married...when you are ready and have met the right person you just know and it doesn't matter your age...noone will be able to change your mind when you are ready...I think you should wait
2007-08-01 11:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Notagain 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probably realise that if you "date other people first" then you'll never marry your current bf, because you'll simply move on. He seems to be more aware of it than you are. You can really imagine you two going off and dating other people for 3-5 years, then calling each other up and saying, "So, are you ready now? Oh, you have a gf? She is rich, beautiful and fun to be with? But what about me?" If you feel you might want to date other people first, then don't marry just yet, it's a sign that you're not ready. Don't tell him anymore about dating other people, because it only hurts him. It suggests that you're not satisfied with the relationship while not explaining what is that you don't quite like. It is frustrating for him to hear. Don't marry just yet, stick with him till you are absolutely sure one way or the other. 2 years of dating when you're in your early 20s in not enough, even if you know each other longer.
2007-08-01 18:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all yaeh u r young but if u really love this guy u should not worry about any other thing that if he loves u too &u r pretty sure of it & what u said about dating other people I guess this is totally wrong cuz u just dont get a lover that easy it is really hard &what Iam telling u is that real love comes only once &take this chance by getting just engaged for more than 2 years & by then u can decide wether u really wanna spend the rest of ur life with that guy or not & but for now I think u must be engaged that will make u know if u can really sacrifice for each other or not ? can u bear each other for ever ? that is the real question& only both of u can answer it good luck for u both
2007-08-01 18:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pharmacist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe you are too young to get married. His job may look nice now, and his parents may have an extra place now, but in a month or a year, it may not be the same. Set a goal to both work and set aside some money. Make another goal to wait one year and see how you both feel about marriage then. In the end, it really comes down to your feelings. Do you feel ready? Have you done research on how to make marriages last? Good luck!
2007-08-01 18:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother married his first real girlfriend (and he was her second). They got married when they were both 19. Don't get me wrong, they've had some hard times, but they've been married for 19 years now. My parents both got married when they were 16-17 (never had other boyfriends/girlfriends). They've been married for 38 years now. Not without problems here and there - but they've been able to work through them. So I don't think age or number of partners is the indicator as to whether or not a relationship will be successful. Whether or not you're both willing to be faithful to eachother, really love eachother, stick by eachother through thick and thin, and work through your problems is what will determine if your marriage will last.
As for determining when you should marry - that's for you guys to decide.
2007-08-01 18:24:23 · answer #5 · answered by swordarkeereon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You are obviously too young.
2) Why would you ever suggest seeing other people when you ask when you should marry this boy in the same breath?
Do you like this guy or not? You are obviously too young to marry but first make up your mind if you want to stay with him in the first place.
2007-08-01 18:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest with you i am 23 and married but before i was married there were a lot of guys that i felt that way about and now i am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO glad i did not make the mistake of having kids with or marrying any of them...not to say things will turn out the same with you but you just never know so my advice to you is........ there is no right or wrong age for marriage it just depend on how you feel and how your relationship is working and if you feel like you are ready to settle down with one person for the rest of your life ...just remember that marriage is a lot of work and it is to be taken seriously be sure you have the best man for the job and that you are absolutely 100% ready to take on the responsibility and be faithful...remember people change as they grow older and if you guys are truly meant to be now you will still be a few years from now ...whats the rush?
2007-08-01 18:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by im whats up! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married yet. No one is rushing you right ? And NO you do not have to date other people to realize if you want to be with each other. Live together, go out, have fun! Both of you are young and only time can determine if you will be together. Enjoy your life as it is.
2007-08-01 18:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by GAYANA A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't marry cuz it seems like you aren't ready. Reason for this is because you already asked to see other people which tells him your not convinced or for certain about the marriage. You might have your doubts by asking to see other people. As for now just keep dating and go with the flow. Then again I can't tell you what to do and how to live your life. You do what you feel is the best.
2007-08-01 18:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The statistics say, it is best for both individuals to date more than one, before marrying, however, this is up to you two. If you think your love is strong enough to endure all the hardships that go along with marriage, then maybe you will experience the blissful part of a marriage as well.
You both are young, but if you think you are mature enough, go for it!
2007-08-01 18:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not date each other for a while and see how the relationship works and in 3 or 4 yrs time if ye are still going strong maybe then get engaged
you dont need to date other people if ye are happy as a couple
2007-08-01 18:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by starrygirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋