Last night my wife ask me if I want to have a three some then she star loughing Then she told me that she wants to invite one of our friend over she told me that she wants a female no a male to join us during sex. i ask her if she doesn't mind if i have sex with her friend she told me that is going to be the three of us no only her friend and me. But she needs an answer by tonight. We have being marry for five years everthing is ok she told me that she love me but she wants to try something else please help or let me know if you are having the same situation to be onest i really like her friend. But I'm afraid that this can destroy our marriage.
2007-08-01 10:55:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's lucky to have you. At least you think about it before you do. There is a risk it will cause drama and if you really want to do it you have to be aware of that risk.Is your wife jealous in any way.There have to be strict rules even in these situations.Can be touchy. I've done it and I have lots of experience and sometimes I wish I would have kept my innocence.Be careful but have fun!
2007-08-01 11:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I don't think you should agree with your wife. Even if she wants to try new things. If your not comfortable with it and you care about the marriage then you'd think twice about it. It seems as though the problem is your wife?? You need to talk to her ASAP and find out her situation and how she feels about this whole issue. Other people said on here she could be testing you which may be true too! So be wise and make the right decision
2007-08-01 18:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These questions make my brain hurt. Seriously.
My one side says: "You've TOTALLY hit the jackpot here go for it, as many times as you can in one night!!! You get to live the fantasy almost all men have and only get to dream about! And I feel completely jealous, you'd have to be an idiot to turn an opportunity like this down!"
My other side says: Most marriages can't handle the threesome and marriage is a sanctity of two people, and it's not worth the risk to your marriage.
So, I'll hit submit before my brain implodes. If you do it make sure you set the ground rules with your wife for what is and isn't acceptable and not letting this get out of control emotionally for either of you. If you don't you may have more self control than I would in your place and I admire you for it.
2007-08-01 18:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You will be taking a risk if you invite another into your bed. I speak from personal experience. Marriages have enough stress these days without adding more. There are no guarantees when you allow such behavior into your lives. You will get a lot of people telling you to go for it...But do so with EXTREME CAUTION. Opening my first marriage was the beginning of the end of my 19 year marriage.
2007-08-01 18:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The fact that your wife is even asking you to have sex with another woman in your bed is not good. She is obviously bi-sexual, because no real woman could ever do that.
Whether it's emotional or physical, a third person in a marriage will definitely end up in divorce. That is written in stone.
2007-08-01 18:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever occur to you her and her friend are bi curious and maybe have already talked this over, you have real concerns but there is lots of couples that do it and have a stronger marriage and most men would think Christmas and birthday has come early with the suggestion
2007-08-01 18:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by sadistic_bondagelover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so risky though. I don't think you should do it. But if your fine with it and trust your wife then it's all up to you. Relationships should be a 2 person involvment not three especially since you've been married for 5 years!. Good luck
2007-08-01 18:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't do it, it's a trap. Your marriage will end. Address the problems yourself first. Seek a marriage counselor or sex therapist first. Don't come on to some Yahoo Answers board and ask the advice of the commoners, go ask a professional. This is your marriage for christ sake. It is supposed to be important!
2007-08-01 18:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by soduh72 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes its gonna destroy the marriage, your wife should have had a 3some before getting married, not during the marriage.
2007-08-01 18:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by califababy25 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tricky one. I wouldn't do it, just because the statistics on relationships after the fact never work out. It causes to many problems and ill feelings between the couple, plus she may like the girl a little too much and leave you.
2007-08-01 17:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by flashdman11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No! I believe that sex is reserved for marriage, but yeah.
But since you are married, ( and want to stay married) IT SHOULD BE RESERVED FOR YOU AND YOUR WIFE ONLY!
Otherwise, your marriage not only can be, but WILL be destroyed. If you don't want your house to burn down, don't even play with the fire.
2007-08-01 18:05:17 · answer #11 · answered by ocean_girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋