My wife has came out and told me that she might be an Lesbian.I love my wife very much and still care for her greatly. I've given her some time to give me an answer (if she truly is or not). I feel a bit hurt and used(used i mean we got married so she can have kids).I dont really know what to do,while i'm wating for an answer?
2007-08-01 10:55:45 · 11 answers · asked by jon v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What if she is ? You and she promised to stay with each other till death. Both should keep your promise and be faithful to each other even if it means no s*x for either. You'll grow to depend on each other as you get to your golden years anyway the way it was meant to be. There's more to a marriage than that. It's your family and support network. It shouldn't be thrown away over a few hurt feelings. And I mean her too. She can't in good consience call it quits even if she is a lesbian. It's not the right thing to do.
2007-08-01 11:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jimbob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's sick! She's willing to ruin your life and the children's as well? I don't care what people do to/with each other but it will change your kids for life. I went through the same thing with my husband and his stupidity years ago. Our children were damaged and I wouldn't get married again...EVER...and take a chance on that kind of slime hitting me again. I hope your wife shapes up before it's too late for the rest of you. And I wish you luck with being able to still love her and respect her.
2007-08-01 11:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents went through the same thing when I and my sister were little. I am now 22 and fully understand everything and don’t take it as a rejection if she is. If she is then there is nothing that you can do about it. It is not your fault. My dad and mom didn’t get along for years after their divorce, they do now. You won’t find this funny now but later on you will think of this but I asked my dad how he got over it and he said that he could not blame my mom for liking the same thing he did. Just be there for your kids they may not understand what is going on. But it shouldn’t take her long to know at lest I think that bc I think people are born with those feeling but just ignore them bc of our unforgiving society.
2007-08-01 11:09:52 · answer #3 · answered by mel85ga 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Give her time and wait! If it's true tell her to get a girlfriend, move in and live happily ever after! Two woman every night sounds good to me! Call the extra woman a nanny and tell your wife she had to let you join in most of the time! Sounds like a win win to me!! Good luck!! Lucky man!
2007-08-01 11:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Need info. Does she mention how she feels about you ? You can't change how people are attracted to. I will advise you to keep the communication bond open don't hide away just because you are hurt. Don't run away. When she wants to talk just sit down and listen. A way to get true answers. Keep showing your true feelings. Keep in mind you both have kids. Kids see what parents go through....even thou they hide it.
2007-08-01 11:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by LIZA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It makes me sad to hear that, I wish there was an easy answer. Have you asked her if she has been cheating on you? (how else would she know?) All i can say is good luck to ya, and make sure your kids are OK. I think it would destroy me to hear my wife say that.
2007-08-01 11:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your situation, but really, there isn't anything you can do.
Just wait for the answer, and remember that it's nothing against you, it's just a change in lifestyle.
2007-08-01 11:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Might be a lesbian? What is that supposed to mean? I'm not buying this story. Beleive me if she were a lesbian she would know, there would be no "Might be" about it. But thanks for the two points.
2007-08-01 13:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it is true and she knew the whole time she might be a lesbian than she defrauded you.
2007-08-01 11:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Greg 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YOU GOT MARRIED CUZ YOU LOVED HER. MAYBE SHE HAS BEEN CONFUSED WITH HER Preference.
SOMETIMES PEOPLE LIKE THIS GET MARRIED ETC... CUZ ITS WHAT THEIR SUPPOSED TO DO, THEN LATER REALIZE IT'S NOT WORKING. SORRY,
2007-08-01 11:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by kramer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋