i think i have made a huge mistake...my family is and always has been very controlling ( i am working on that) but i have had a boyfriend who loves me more than i have ever felt, BUT he makes mistakes like most of us do... the problem is when i am asked how things are going ...i seem to highlight those bad areas, so they only seem to know the bad side...but he really is awesome and amazing...but now its so bad that my fam says they will stop talking to me if i get back with him, and i have told him i hate him (out of anger not truth) what should i do?
It is so hard to be in a relationship with everyone that cares for you against it. :(:(
2007-08-01 10:24:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell your family that you have overstated some of his faults, because, well girls tend to do that.
I used to run to my mom whenever my husband did anything wrong and tattletale basically. She started to really not like him. Trouble was, I never said anything positive he was doing. So she was hearing all this bad stuff and that was it. Since I have learned to talk to my friends and not my family.
Just be honest with your mom about how he really treats you. And then dont' run to her with problems anymore. Maybe some of the things he has done to you were so bad you do need to leave him though.
2007-08-01 10:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this exact problem before...either way it hurts. But when I really thought about things my family has always been here for me and have supported me in everything good. When I loved a guy who loved me back so so much and my parents didn't approve and cut me off from everything...it was definately a wake up call and I decided to choose family. If that guy was really the one for me then he will come back into my life at another time...I made the right decision and I'm glad I chose my family over a boyfriend....Hope it all works out and remember..theres more fish in the sea
2007-08-01 17:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by momofoshosho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the only reason they are against it is because you have told them nothing good about the relationship, only the bad parts.
So how would you expect them to act?
If you want them to see your relationship for what it is, then stop complaining to them about your problems in your relationship.
You are the one that caused this.
You are the one that is going to have to fix it.
Maybe be telling them some of the things you have done wrong in the relationship that has helped make it go bad.
Always think before you talk or act.
We always have to pay the consequences for our actions !!
2007-08-01 17:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are against it because you have poisoned them against him...it is never a good idea to allow family into the private areas of your relationships. In this situation you have no choice but to lie in the bed you have made and pray that you learn from this relationship not to bad mouth the next guy to your family!
2007-08-01 17:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Notagain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to get your family to see the good side of your boyfriend. If they only know the bad side they will have problems accepting him. If he is such a great guy they will see that and things will get better for you. You need to stop letting them control you and everything that you do.
2007-08-01 17:31:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are there more bad times than good? It seems to me that if there was more true happiness with him then you would have nothing but good things to tell your family. Maybe there's a lot going on that you don't want to admit to yourself.
2007-08-01 17:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Holly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait!!!
It's not a decision that you have to make!!!
Turn it around on those that think they can give you an ultimatum.
here is yours to them.
"I love him, and i think we can work things out, I vent to you because you are my family, and that's what families do. If you as my family choose not to talk to me because I love someone that you don;t care for, I am very sorry that you felt it necessary to make that decision.
I will always love you and my door is always open when you decide to love me for me and for all my faults."
2007-08-01 17:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family will and has to be there for you always. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. If this boyfriend REALY loved you he wouldn't be the source of such drama. DUMP HIM - DUMP THE DRAMA. Sometimes you have to listen to logic before you listen to your emotions.
2007-08-01 17:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family are pushing use together, if you feel strongly for him and he makes you feel good then stick with him, you dont no your in love until people push you apart. Perhaps you should sit down and talk with your family, with your bf and let them no how use feel x
2007-08-01 17:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot force your family to accept your boyfriend, who, by the way sounds like a loser. You make the choice, but stop whining to your family about this guy. If I were you, I would dump the guy, because he is no good, regardless of your family's feelings about him.
2007-08-01 17:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋