oks my fiance is at the ocean working. he is coming back on saturday (he left mon morning)! my question is what should, i do for a little change! (im not cutting my hair).. Im planning to go tanning, what else can ido? and where should i take him out? (we both love out doors, keep in mind) when he comes back and sees me i want him to think man, im never leaving her again! serious people only..
2007-08-01 10:13:42 · 24 answers · asked by sara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
some of you misunderstood me.. all i want to do is welcome him back(need ideas for that).. and where to take him out!.. i also want to look good and want some ideas on what i should wear and etc. Im acually 18 yrs old. all when i wrote " i want him to think man im never leaving her again" what i mean is he wont want to leave again! and i also wrote for experienced people becuase i want to know when your mate left for a few weeks what did you do when they came back? thank you for some good advice! i appreciate it very much! =).. it would help me alot if you would share what you did for your honey!
2007-08-02 10:12:35 · update #1
My trump card has always been dyeing my hair red... It looks good on me, and men go wild for redheads. Where to take him? I bet, after being away he will just want to stay home and enjoy his weekend. I know I would.
2007-08-01 10:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you for you and it won't matter how you look although the gesture would be nice. Men really want nothing more than to be greeted at the door with a hug, kiss, smile and basically a hey your home and I missed you. As for taking him out, you said you both like the outdoors. Well, my husband always found having a picnic in the mountains was romantic and we both love it because it is so secluded. Do you have a favorite spot outdoors to go. Take him there. If he has been gone that long he probably doesn't want to be around a lot of people. Quality quiet time is what he is going to want. Good Luck
2007-08-08 16:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by jstahrsgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh, you are setting yourself up when you put "for people who are experienced and serious only." What exactly is experienced? Like Dr. Phil experienced? Honestly, I think it a bit unusual that you want to create such an impression that he thinks "I'm never leaving her again" Didn't he just go to the ocean for work? Are you afraid he'll leave you permanently? I could be completely misunderstaning your question, but it kind of hints towards insecurity, or worry. I understand couples wanting to surprise one another, especially after being away from one another for a time. But honestly, I think after being away from one another the suprise is simply being together again. And from a man's perspective, after being away from home on business, when you get home, the thing you want to do least is go on out. It's nice to be home. Make him a nice dinner or something, and plan something close by. Just being together is reward enough. And he married you; so unless you really let it go after marriage, you probably don't have to change all that much about how you look, etc. for him to want to stick around. If you have a comfortable, confident relationship, I would assume just getting back to the way things are together is enough satisfaction. If things are off kilter, I suppose trying to change appearance, situations, etc. may work as an attempt to alter the insecurity.
2007-08-01 17:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look too sexy if you guys are going out. If he's gone for long periods, you don't want him getting the idea that you look like that all the time.
Go get your tan, and look very nice. A nice summer dress or something. But leave the nice surprise underneath. Some sexy bra and thong combo!
Leave your hair long and flowing so he can smell how good your hair smells when he hugs you, wear his favorite perfume on your neck for the same reason.
When he gets there, fly out the door with arms extended and jump all romantic like into his arms and tell him how much you missed him.
Help him carry his things into the house and get his stuff ready so he can ready himself for your outing. Ask him what he wants to do, but be prepared to take him to a nice restaurant. Chances are you wont be out long before he wants to go home and get to know you all over again!
2007-08-09 12:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you run to the door with a big smile and a hug and kiss. Nothing makes a man happier than a friendly welcome back. Guys don't care a lot about all the other stuff but will still appreciate the effort. Don't feel hurt if he doesn't notice or comment on changes you've made, that will ony cause problems.
As for what else you could do:
You could whiten your teeth.
As for outdoors, go for a small hike.
2007-08-01 17:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by http://www.wrightlawnv.com 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Replan your first date...only you do the planning this time...make it a surprise. You pick him up...you make the reservations.
OR
1. Just pick the nicest resturant and make reservations.
2. Go somewhere and have your hair done for the day, just for him in his favorite hair style.
3. Let him know that you really missed him and that this night is all about him. Turn off your cell phone and focus on just him.
Just a hint:
After all of this he might want to leave again so that he gets the "royal" treatment more often :-) LOL!!
2007-08-01 17:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did when my husband was gone for a couple of weeks. I went and bought a very nice sexy outfit to go and pick him up in. I went and bought some new make-up and got some tips on how to put it on a little more different. And I went and got my hair done, I colored it, not cut it. Instead of taking him out....we spent the night in. A little dark lighting and wine, and lingerie!
2007-08-09 09:05:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhhhh but thats the trap, if you go all out for this look sexier feed him something amaizing and then rock his world in bed (im assuming this is part of the plan) then the thought is wow i cant wait to go out again to see what she does then,
if the idea is im never leaving her again, give him a hug and a kiss and then spend the next 3 hours going over all the problems you had to handle with out him, make it seam like it was all his fault for not being there, and then give him some chores, believe me the thought in his mind will be yeah it was cool but it isnt worth comming back to all this
2007-08-01 17:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know something, all the years I spent at sea all I ever wanted was to come home and feel like I was missed. All that sexy panties and bra crap, and the going out to a nice dinner can wait until the second day. Give him an afternoon of great sex (two or three times) and relaxation, he'll like that more than anything. And by the way, don't try anything kinky or out of the norm for you, he'll wonder where you learned it!
2007-08-01 17:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by bmcbrewer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about packing a light lunch like sandwiches, fruit and cheese, and inviting him to a secluded part of a local park for a picnic. You can appreciate the great outdoors sitting on a blanket, eating good food you prepared and enjoying each other's company.
2007-08-08 23:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has been out at sea for so long, I would make reservations at a nice steak house. Make sure to order a dessert to share! Buy a nice outfit that says wow. Then something more comfortable for later. =) Make sure your place is all set for the evenings events. Low candle light, soft music, place rose petals on your bed...Men love a great meal and even better company.
2007-08-08 16:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by blue_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋