My husband recently found an old box of letters sent to him whild he was at boot camp for the Army. The letters are all over 12 years old and no longer have any meaning to him. The problem is he seems unwilling to do anything with them. He says he dosn't want to throw them away becase they may blow out of the trash can and they are very private. What would be a good way to encourage him to get rid of them, but for him to still feel as if his privacy is not being invaded? They are all from the girl he was dating in highschool. I am not really jealous, but the longer they sit there the more tempted I am to read them, just to see what they had. Any suggestions?
2007-08-01 10:13:21 · 27 answers · asked by j_lynn_griff 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Read them all while he is at work and then tell him to shred them....just kidding. This isn't your business, stay out of it. Who cares about some 12 year old letters. I know you are probably curious as all get out, but you reading the letters will only make you ask him questions about her, which will only lead to fights about her. Don't get the ball rolling.
Put them in the garage and forget it. For all you know she is a lesbian now who could care less about him or maybe she happily married with kids or maybe she has passed away. Tell yourself she is gay and doesn't want him and move along with your life. good luck!
2007-08-01 10:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a suggestion or two. Do not read them. Do not throw them away. They are indeed private and they are HIS, not yours. You may not be jealous but you might be too nosy. If you're tempted to read them, wrap the box in heavy paper and tape securely ALL OVER! Then put it away safely in the back of a closet. There! Don't you feel good about yourself now? You acted mature and you respected your husband's right to have privacy. And you shouldn't feel guilty about any little secret thing you might have from your past.
2007-08-01 10:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's his private stuff, let him keep it and don't read it. All that stuff is from the past. Some people like keep sakes. Sometimes that's all you have to remember someone by. I wouldn't take it personal or anything. I have lots of old letters, pictures and other memorabilia. I keep it at my moms house so it's not in my husbands face. He wouldn't care or anything, I just choose to leave it there. I have lost friends and some of those things are all I have left. Try to be more understanding.
2007-08-01 10:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 00:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by robinette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put them in the back of the attic. I have a box of letters between me and my best frind from high school, it was many many years ago. But in them we talk about the boys we likes and things we did. I keep them in the back of the attic. I do not want to throw them out either. I just think it is funny to go back and read them and laugh. My husband does not care cause it was 10 years ago. I would not make a big deal about it.
2007-08-01 10:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes toss them.he said they have no meaning right? And he doesn't want to throw them away.And the blowing out of the trash is so lame.He needs you to be stronger than he is in this matter,Toss them puppies outta the home you share.And he has no privacy where you share a life,what does he need privacy for?marriage is surrender.A real man would have thrown them out a long time ago.
2007-08-01 10:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by Raymond C 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You could always get a paper shredder, if he is willing to get rid of them, but he may not be willing to get rid of the letters yet. They might hold some type of memories for him. I understand the temptation though. Maybe put them out of sight. You know the saying out of sight out of mind.
2007-08-01 10:16:54 · answer #7 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need to throw them away? Leave them be. Everyone has the right to their past. I would never toss the old sentimental reminders of my past, nor would I ask my spouse to do the same. Let him do what he feels is right.
2007-08-01 10:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, that by having them around you are being tempted to read them. Ask if he can place them maybe at his mother's house or another relative.
2007-08-01 10:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't read them. They are private. They are also his to throw out when he wishes, it is not your right to do so for him. If he likes, to ensure his privacy, he could buy a shredder.
2007-08-01 10:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋