Counselor says I have anxiety????

Question

due to my current situation with the people in my life not being there for me to turn to. problem is, i don't know where to go to make friends. everyone i know already has this preconceived image of me in there minds.

Answer 1

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Oh please - don't waste time talking to a counselor - read some books by Abraham Maslow.
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BIG LIFE HINT: People attracted to counseling, therapy, psychology, and psychiatry, and like that have overwhelming personal conflicts they are trying to resolve and are not the people you should be asking for advice.
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The best way to relieve anxiety is to send me lots of hawt pix to brighten up my life - the best way to feel good about urself is to do something nice for someone else.
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:D

Answer 2

Friends are a good thing at times, but I've learned there are some things they can't do, and it's not always because they don't want to. Your thoughts are unique, just as anyone's, and unless you can find someone with a pattern very similar to yours, you will be hard-pressed to even convey them in a manner they can understand. In cases such as these, you are your first and last defense, but you are not alone. Everyone goes through this, though some think on it more than others. If you apply yourself, and turn off your world receptors for a little time, you can work it out. Be careful not to become too closed off though, or you may find yourself lost your head.

Honestly, if the only thing your counselor could tell you is you have anxiety, he/she falls into one of two categories I've discovered. She is one of the people that really can't see much and hides behind their cotton paper. Find another.

Answer 3

It's helpful to know the root cause of the problem. I suspect the counseler can help you sort through this. Here are some ideas that may or may not be appropriate in your specific situation:

Volunteer at a local nursing home. Sometimes it helps if you become more focused on what you can do for others and less focused on your own issues.

You might consider taking a martial art like Aikido or another practice like Yoga. Learning to meditate and to calm your mind (and stop random thoughts) can be helpful.

Learn to have a profound sense of self-acceptance. Buddhism teaches you to drop your attachments and preconceptions about yourself and others.

It may help to work with a councelor to discover practical ways that you can cope with the anxiety. It's usually best to deal with the root causes, but if it leads to depression, don't be afraid of drugs, because this can help in the short-term.

This culture tends to be judgemental, so I'd try to find a way to avoid others with this attitude. It isn't simple or easy.

If you determine the problem is related to your local envirnoment, you might consider taking advantage of a program like Job Corp. The federal program for young adults 16-24 and provides full room, board, medical, and practical job training. You can earn a GED or high school diploma, and some centers offer community college opportunities.

A good, experienced counselor is the best way to resolve these problems and provide you with some guidance.

Answer 4

Loneliness is a tough thing to tackle. Especially in today's society. Humans are farther and farther apart thanks to technology. It has become harder and harder to meet people out in public thanks to non stop cell phone usage too. Yes, this is becomeing a cold world. But maybe you have a chemical imbalance which is leading to anxiety and depression. Medication combined with therapy can work wonders. But it cannot take the place of friendship. Contrary to what people think, church and college are not the best places to meet new friends. Often, we meet new friends in the workplace. That can be risky because of the gossip factor, but for alot of people it is the only route. Another way to meet friends is to learn a musical instrument and post ads to start a band. You wouldn't believe how many calls one can get! Try unconventional ways to meet new friends. And remember one thing... friends will always let you down. They are human. So don't be upset if you feel betrayed. People are fickle. You know? I don't mean to preach, but the only person that will never let you down is Jesus. A personal relationship with Christ can do alot to cure loneliness. Only through prayer can we put our mind at ease. I wish you the absolute best in the future.

Answer 5

I think this is where you begin to be there for yourself. Lots of times we put so much on others to be there for us to help us and prop us up, we forget that honestly, we really don't need them. All we need is faith in ourselves and God.

If people have a preconceived notion of you, that doesn't mean you can't change. It also doesn't mean they can change their minds eventually. Just commit yourself to your goal and see what happens :) And don't forget to smile :D

Answer 6

pl consult the doc . pl.dont think people hav a different image about u becos u r no mind reader .if u cant make friends with yur neighbours, join local church group. pl dont reveal all about yurself if neighbours r not trustworthy

Answer 7

I have anxiety too, but they are attacks that I can't control. I have to take Ativan when it happens. You may just need to learn breathing and relaxing techniques. Don't worry about what other people think.

Answer 8

So, have you deserved to have an image like that? if not, then you dont want friends like that, if so, then you need to work on you. Once you do that, you will find friends without looking for them

Answer 9

So many people have anxiety in this day and age, I'm surprised you don't fit right in with your friends.