2007-08-01 09:27:27 · 25 answers · asked by misty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TERRIBLE IDEA!! I have 4 brothers and sisters and my parents stayed together to make the point that divorce is not okay...and they thought it would be too hard on us. Well, finally it was too much for both of them and they separated, and yes it was hard...but they're both much more pleasant...and they don't wake us up with their screaming in the middle of the night.
It's important that your son be raised by a happy mother and father, and if that means that they are no longer together, so be it.
2007-08-01 09:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by luckygurl284 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Truth be told that is so old school. Staying married just because you have a child together can only lead to just being even more unhappy. If your unhappy then the next thing that could and probably will happen is that arguments and just tension between the two of you...then your son will pick up on it and not know what to do. Separate and see how things work out. Then the both of you sit down and talk to your son and let him know that everything is still the same. Good Luck
2007-08-01 16:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by D N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um yeah thats not a good idea. Figure out exactly y you are not happy with him. Then talk to him about it maybe get some counseling. If nothing changes for the better do not stay together for your son. Kids are very receptive to feelings and emotions he will know something is not right. Not only that he may think it is something that he has done to cause the problems he senses. Good luck
2007-08-01 17:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really aren't happy being married to your husband....and you are unwilling or don't think there is a chance of having a happy marriage you are doing your son a disservice by staying married to your husband. I am not sure if your husband is the father of your son...but it really doesn't matter. What I am saying is that kids have a way of finding out that momma and daddy aren't happy...and they also find a way to blame themselves. Your son will be much better off living with one parent that is happy and well adjusted as opposed to being with both parents that are miserable.
2007-08-01 16:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is such a horrible idea. My best friend and his wife did that and it has finally ended very very badly. Now they hate each other & can't even be civil. Neither one of them were very happy & they both started having extra-marital affairs and it hurt both of them not the mention the children.
It is much better for the kid in the long run to grow up in a one parent home then a home where the parents aren't happy. Kids are very smart and they can pick up on things like that.
2007-08-01 16:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are unhappy and if there is tension in your relationship and home, the 7 year old will "feel" it too.
this happened in my house for about 22 years -- my parents were miserable together, although they didn't argue (except at the final blowout in the end!). there was so much unhappiness, tension and misery in the air when i was 10 years old, i wanted to run away.
i'm 50 now, and can look back and still FEEL it all.
i guess if you can make for a comfortable and HAPPY home, and you and your husband can agree to get along and be "friends" for now, that might work?
take care... i hope things work out for the best.
2007-08-01 16:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you learn to be happy in the situation? That is the only way that sticking it out for your son will work. Does your husband know that your not happy?
2007-08-01 16:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Qyllix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some marriage counsiling. I am sure the first thing your husband is gonna say is no, but tell him if he does not, you will consider leaving. Tell him you want to make it better and that your child deserves it. Maybe it just takes someone else listening to the two of you for him to understand how unhappy you really are.
2007-08-01 16:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Va princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never healthy to stay with a spouse for the sake of a child cause it's just going to hurt everyone, even the child. If you do not want to be with this man then you can't stay with him, end of story. No matter what you think, your child will not be happy if you aren't happy.
2007-08-01 16:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
AND IN ALL HONESTY, YOUR CHILD IS NOT THE SOLUTION TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE THAT MAKES YOU UNHAPPY. AND, IF YOU STAY WITH HIM BECAUSE OF THIS, YOU'RE REALLY DUMB. IT'S NOT ONLY BEST FOR YOU TO SEPERATE FROM YOUR HUSBAND BUT FOR YOUR CHILD AS WELL. YOUR CHILD IS GOING TO SUFFER SEVERELY IN THE END BY YOU STAYING IN THIS RELATIONSHIP. THINGS WILL BE OK. YOUR HUSBAND WILL STILL BE ABLE TO BE A PART OF YOUR CHILDS LIFE AND STILL BE THE FATHER. MY DAD LEFT MY MOM WHEN SHE WAS PREGNANT WITH MY 8 YEAR OLD SISTER AND SHE'S DOING FINE. MY DAD SPENDS EVERY OTHER WEEKEND AND EVERY WEDNESDAY WITH HER. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND DO THE RIGHT THING
2007-08-01 16:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by scooby5_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋