my ex husband says he likes being with me, he says lets go to the movies, lets go to vegas lets go anywhere. I get excited thinking we'll get back together but after he leaves, nothing. untill i call him about something and then it will start again. I don't understand whats going on.
2007-08-01 09:10:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he enjoys spending time with you and enjoys the excitement and ventures but, does not want to be committed..You have to look into why or what happen that you and him got a divorce in the first place...Sometimes they say your better off apart then together but, how is that fair to you? It seems as if you still have feelings for him then he has for you...You may need to have a talk with him and find out what it is that he wants and expects...You'll may have to ask yourself, is this is truly what you will or do WANT??
I wish you all the best***
2007-08-01 09:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called "stringing you along." He is a controlling, manipulative person and you are happy being suckered every time. He has no intention of getting back with you - he just doesn't want you to move on and find happiness. That's how insecure, little men try to give themselves the illusion they have control and it makes them feel bigger.
Grow a backbone and stop taking the bait every time he dangles it in front of you. Let go. You will never find better if you don't hold to higher standards. This routine will go on indefinitely until HE finds someone else to jerk around. Then he will dump you flat. In fact, he may be playing around with someone else at the same time and enjoying watching both women spin into a frenzy chasing him. I am sure he has told neither of you about the other.
2007-08-01 09:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows you, he is comfortable with you and does not have to court you. As long as you keep saying yes to his offers, he will call when he wants your company and whatever else you are letting him have and then put you away until next time. Tell him no next time, you are tired of getting excited and then find out it is only because he wanted to use you.
2007-08-01 09:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how long you've been divorced but maybe it's just that he doesn't really want to date or get involved with anyone else and he is comfortable hanging out with you. If the two of you were able to divorce that civilly and amicably then I think that's great. I don't think it necessarily means he wants to get back together. One thing is for sure, you won't know unless you ask him. Just talk to him about it.
2007-08-01 09:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by jwsou812 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying for everything when you go out? He may just be trying to get some money from you. Is your divorce settled?
He may just be trying to bring a friendly relationship back with the two of you. Maybe he does not want hatred within the two of you.
2007-08-01 09:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just loves your company and there's nothing wrong with that. If you really want to know then just ask him. There's nothing wrong with being open and honest about how you feel. Let him know that it's confusing and that you need to know where you two stand. Good Luck
2007-08-01 09:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by D N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being used. You are convenient and you jump at the chance to be with him. He can rely on you to let him use you.
STOP IT. He's your ex for a reason. Move on.
2007-08-01 09:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by KV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he knows that when he calls you'll be there for him. It sounds to me that he's doing it out of boardem. may you shouldn't be so readily available. If you want him back in a relationship you need to express those feelings towards him, let him know where you stand.
2007-08-01 09:21:09 · answer #8 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you girl. He only wants to be with you when it is convenient to him...and most likely for sex. Refuse to go anywhere with him...He is your ex after all.
2007-08-01 09:16:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he gets lonely once in a while and uses you to fill the time until he's no longer in need of company.
2007-08-01 09:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Holly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋