I was trying to be civil and stay friends, but this hit me hard. She is moving in on him really fast. As a friend, I have my doubts about the woman. (She doesn't speak English well, so she told him she had 2 kids when she meant 5??!) He's in lust.I am going to the gym almost every day and trying to take care of myself. Please, any constuctive suggestions would be appreciated. Drinking is not an option.
2007-08-01 08:56:35 · 24 answers · asked by fargrit23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to keep in mind that this is all new and chances are... she is just his rebound to keep YOU off of his mind!
You should go out, that doesn't mean drinking, and surround yourself with friends and family that love you! You are already taking the right steps by going to the gym to occupy your time and I commend you for trying to keep things civil between you two.
Find some projects you can do around your house, a change of scenery (redecorating, rearranging furniture, painting the rooms, etc.) will help you make this huge change because then you won't be stuck in a house full of old memories.
Good Luck and God Bless, you can e-mail me if you'd like to talk.
Don't listen to these people talking about "why do you care, he's your ex...blah blah blah" they obviously don't realize how hard a divorce can be.
2007-08-01 10:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 16:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not something that's easy to get over. It will take time. In the meantime, while you're waiting, keep up the workout. It will only make you feel better. Pencil in some time to go out with friends or something else you really enjoy.
At this point, it's all about distraction. It's going to hurt if you think about it. Try not to think about it. Really. If it pops into your mind, or you run into them, just tell yourself it has nothing to do with you. He didn't pick her because she's better than you, prettier than you or whatever. Even supermodels get cheated on. (Not saying he's cheating...just sayin...).
Don't dwell on it. He will have to go through the very thing you are dealing with once you find a new guy. Even if your ex is attached, he will still feel it.
2007-08-01 09:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by KV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that there is really a good or bad way to do handle your ex moving on either way it sucks and it hurts. The best thing I can suggest is to go out with friends, keep your mind busy, and avoid trying to be friends with your ex. Everyone wants to do it especially when kids are involed cause it sounds good. But it's hectic on future relationships and your feelings and emotions trust me. I just got divorced and tried maitaing a friendship with my ex while having a girlfriend and it made things ungly for all parties involved.
2007-08-01 09:05:00 · answer #4 · answered by letgoletflow26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl in a few months you won't even care. Your going to the gym and taking care of yourself and soon enough you will have the right person in your life who will appreciate you. Your ex will regret his decision to be with this woman once he gets a whif of all five of her kids. Not that she doesn't deserve to find someone but seriously he is probably just using her for the goods! Good Luck!
2007-08-01 09:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by been there 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
IF hes your ex-husband then leave it. It may hurt but move on I got mad when my now husbands ex-wife tried to get involved with our relationship and to this day I still really don't like her. and he doesn't talk to her because she tried meddling in our lives. just thought you would like some in site on a similar situation. I'm sorry your upset by it but keep going to the gym and get your own man to show him you don't need him
2007-08-01 10:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on, it's not your business. If this woman is "moving" on him or whether she has 10 kids, he's a grown man. Try finding some "lust" of your own to perhaps take your mind of him and his lover. Again, it's just time to move on. There is a reason you are going through a divorce. Let it go.
2007-08-01 09:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
rebound relationships never work out....
that is what he is doing -- trying to make himself feel as if he's still loveable and prove that he's worthy of a relationship.
you both need time to recover and readjust to your new, single life. recovering from divorce is a process which takes quite a bit of time.
you can feel better in knowing your husband isn't emotionally equipped and has nothing to give to the new girlfriend... he's not even divorced yet!
take care of you.. do things to make YOU happy.. spend time with friends, family and do something NEW and exciting!
live a little.. and don't worry about HIM!!! he's an ex for a reason.
2007-08-01 09:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It'll get better. Luckily, what he does with his life is not really of your concern now (friends or not). If he falls on his face, then he does - no skin off your back. The best way to deal with all this "ex" stuff is to get out, meet people, date, pursue your hobbies and stay busy. Good luck.
2007-08-01 09:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't understand the point of being friends with an "Ex". This person is an ex for a reason and unless you want to continue watching them live their life without you....move on! Stop talking to him and don't interfere in his business - go your own way, do your own thing.
2007-08-01 09:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋