2007-08-01 08:51:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a relationship 4+ yrs. Love each other very much. I believe in marriage, he was screwed in previous marriage and is deathly afraid of marriage. says he'll be w/me forever but will never get married again?
2007-08-01 08:53:16 · update #1
if he never want to marry u, and u should go find someone else.. why stay with him..
2007-08-01 09:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by back2future 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter has lived with her boyfriend for 15 years and they have two children. He has never been married. But I would say that if I were you I would stay, and maybe with time he will want you to be his wife. If you love him stay, but I would tell him that you want marriage, and hope that your love for him will help him decide. I am not sure, what do you think he would do if you told him that you love him, but you want marriage, and that if he didn't you would have to leave. But if you can live with out marriage then stay. But if this is important to you, don't waste your time or his, find a man who is willing to make you his wife. If your boyfriend was hurt by another marriage, why should you pay for that. You have feelings too.
2007-08-01 19:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by catira1953 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave. My hubby and i lived together for 3 years before we married. He had been divorced twice and was afraid. He told me if we lasted 3 years, he'd marry. We have been married for almost 2 years now and still going strong. We work hard on our relationship so it doesn't go bad. He knew, for my protection, we had to be married. If he were to die and we weren't i'd have no say so in anything related to him. He wanted me taken care of. After we said i do, he started to cry and told me, He shouldn't have waited so long. He still tells me that to this day. Just because a marriage didn't last before, doesn't mean this one won't. You have been together 4 years. That is long enough to know. Good luck.
2007-08-01 16:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If marriage is important to you, something that you value, especially if you eventually want kids and want to raise them with good family values and morals, then perhaps he is not the one for you, what other major issues will you disagree on? The fact that he's scared of marriage means that he's giving himself the option to leave if things go south, then he doesn't have to admit to another failed marriage....but still, it's almost like setting yourself up for failure...
2007-08-01 16:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never really said you WANTED to get married, just that you believe in it, so is having that piece of paper really that important to you? If he was willing to have a commitment ceremony would that be ok with you? Ask yourself what you truly want out of this relationship and then you'll know what to do. Good luck sweetie
2007-08-01 23:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the marriage part is what you're looking for, not love.
2007-08-01 15:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that isnt a good sign. firstly try to talk to him and say that you expect a last decision from him.
if he says "no", then leave him with his fears and be ready to finish relationship.
(if he thought he cant live without you and you are the one for eachother, then he woudlnt hesitate to marry you. )
2007-08-01 17:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. You want marriage, and that's not what he has in mind.
2007-08-01 16:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Holly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I dug him I'd stay...but then I've been married before and doing that again isn't important to me.
2007-08-01 15:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how he feels.
If the relationship isn't broken, don't try to fix it.
2007-08-01 15:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋