i have been abroad for the last five years while my wife was staying back home. recently i came down to my native and while at home i found that my closest friend whom wasupposed to support my wife and home here was having an affair with my wife for quite a long period since i had left. my wife confessed to the affair.i agreed that the mistake was more of mine and as the situation demanded i could come back only after three more years. before leaving there was a meeting with my friend and wife and me where both agreed to what had happened. i accepted and my friend continued coming home and i didnt object and the relationship continued for a few more months till i took my wife along with me. back abroad, my boss met and my wife at a meeting and started visiting home. he told me that he had a crush for her and conveyed it to my wife too. then i started staying away during his further visits and things were going on easy for us in life. but still at times i feel guilty? should i forget or
2007-08-01 08:42:01 · 19 answers · asked by orangeman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What sort of person are you??? When you came to know about your wife's illicit relationship with your friend you did not object nor took any legal redressal against both of them, rather you allowed this relationship to continue in your presence. Now in the other country your boss had crush for your wife for which you allowed your wife to meet him in your absence to indulge in the illicit relationship. You have been working as a pimp for your wife all this time & now you feel guilty or want to forget all this. I feel you are a black spot on the name of manhood or maybe you don't have one hence you allow your wife for outside sex with other guys. Shame on you, people like you spoil the dignified society & make it dirty. I see no point advising you anything now .
2007-08-01 17:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
yea cuz u let it continue until u took her away and how is it that now or in the past the boss had a crush on her what kind of damn wife do u have and what kind ov understanding do u guys have ? u must have low self esteem?sorry. and so let me guess the mail man has told u this to huh ? how does everybody know and have the nerves to tell how they fell about ur wife? are u just that in love were u feel like its ok for her to cheat? cuz she got lonely hell thats why they call it a bond a marriage for better or i guess in ur case for worse huh?? HELL NAW ur crazy u still with her so u might as well forget cuz u i mean U excepted her and that crap bac! so its no point on dwelling about it,it is the past. and y do u stay away so much for work?? and really thats not an issues cuz u should at least have her to start getting paid from her Johns
2007-08-01 08:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by sean a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A loss is always hard, no matter the reason. You must've really loved him, not many people are so lucky to have been with someone like you in their life. I'm not sure if your religious, and you probably never got to talk to him about anything even close to this situation. Everyone will say to move on, for your own good, but don't let them tell you what to do. In time your emotions will subside and die down a bit, but it won't mean that you love him less even though he's gone. You can always think about him, but he found a way to be happy even through his tough times, he most likely want you to do the same. You could ride the same ride every year at the fair, as a way to remember him. But no one, especially him since he comes across as so nice from your description, would wish suffering on someone they love. You should do whatever makes you feel good, but in time things will start to feel better, don't let your emotions run your life, but don't ignore them either. I'm sorry for your loss, and i wish you the best of luck for your future.
2016-05-20 01:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by annett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's just too bad for you. Unless you were in the military service OR some other job that would not allow her to join you, IT'S YOUR OWN FAULT BABY (to quote an old blues number).
Why in the world would you intrust your wife's well being to another man? That's just a shame dude. Kick yourself REAL hard in the butt and try and recover your marriage (if there's anything left).
2007-08-01 08:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are taking to much responsibility for your wife's action of cheating it is her fault for no being true to you and to cave in for her own needs instead of caring about what you would think or feel. Do you still love her otherwise i would say divorce is the best option shes already cheated and you let it continue without much concern. Seriously do you need her you deserve better.
2007-08-01 09:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Aurora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, she'z ur wife. u can't just sit nd watch while other men just come nd tell u 2 ur face tat they fancy ur wife. getting 2 the point , don't feel guilty abt her cheatin on u the 1st time.it's not ur fault tat she cheated on u. if she really did love u nd cared 4 u, she wud hv never cheated on u. cheaters always just need an excuse 2 cheat but why did u let her c ur frnd 1st nd then ur boss. did u 4get tat she waz ur wife?? i am assuming tat wen she cheated on u wit ur frnd, u probably felt really guilty abt it nd tat it waz all ur fault wen it waz not. the fact tat u let her mess around proves tat u never loved her either. if i were u, i wud move on in life. this marriage isn't like a marriage anymore. ur wife's already violated the relationship (twice i dare say) nd so hv u by lettin her mess around. go nd find sumbudy who really luvs u nd cares nd more importantly, sumbudy who YOU love.
2007-08-01 09:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by muskaan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's past time you forget about that cheating wife of yours and move on with your life. You have nothing to feel guilty about!
2007-08-01 08:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Holly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Wife she is Happy with you Or your x friend,If her answer is with you then Don't make this sot of mistake again.
2007-08-02 23:17:15 · answer #8 · answered by aly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U shld be ashamed of wat u hav done to ur wife n ur wife too hav done something which is not at all the right thing. N after knowing everything u still took ur wife with u ..let she be with ur frnd.
Now ur wife is agree to be with ur boss.
Ohh god wat kind of couple u both r...she is ready to be with anyone n u r ready that ur wife is with others...
2007-08-01 09:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi w@LkeR...
i think its absolutelyyyyyyyyyyyy ur fault.....c buddy when u marry sum1 its ur duty 2 tc of her.....but instead of dat u left her all alone dat 2 4 5 **** yrs......i think its not her fault...cuz a women would also find passion...n u were not there so she got dat passion in ur 4nd.....now i think u guyz should sit 2gether...n talk abt dis topic...n tell her dat u wanna start relations wid her again n u want her 2 b loyal 2wardz u n u'll b also loyal 2 her......i think talkin iz de besttttttttt solution i could hav ever suggested 2 u...tc..sweet dreamz.....bye...
*****! w@Z boRn !NteLL!gEnt buT educ@t!on ru!nEd mE...*****.
2007-08-01 10:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋