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Question

when is the right age to loose ur virginity, im 14 and i already have a friend who has done it (she is 13). im older than her and i feel embarrassed because i thought i would have done it b4 her. So can u help me and give an estimate age.

Answer 1

Oh dear. 13 is so young. You haven't even gotten into High School yet. I was 20 when I lost my virginity and feel that was too soon. You'll find the right guy and the right time will present itself. Don't be in such a hurry to become an adult. Remember, you're only a kid for a short time and you'll be an adult for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Don't worry about stuff like sex -- that's something that you will do when YOU'RE ready not because your friend did it before you.

Answer 2

It is really worrying that you feel embarassed about this. There must be millions of kids like you out there who think they should have had sex by 14. You have no idea how wrong that is...

In the UK, 16 is the legal age, and that's there for a reason. Emotionally, mentally and physically, the law has deemed 16 as the minimum age that you should think about having sex. It's there to protect you. Did you know that having sex with a minor - anyone under 16 - even if they are a willing participant, is termed as 'consensual rape'? 'Consensual because the person consented to the act. But in the eyes of the law it's still rape, and is still a criminal offence.

You need to be ideally 16 or over, in a loving, long lasting relationship and feel ready in yourself before considering losing your virginity. Once it's gone, thats it. Just make sure you use contraception no matter what age you are.

Answer 3

Hi,

Don't go losing it early just to fit in with your friends. Losing your virginity is much more than just the physical side, you need to feel emotionally ready as well.

This girl may just be lying to fit in with things and even if she has had sex then she silly to do it so early.

Having sex for the first time isn't all that wonderful but it can be if you wait until you feel ready and is with someone you care about and not just a quick fumble with a guy down the alleyway and so on!

13 is a young age and what would happen now if she falls pregnant or ends up with an STI? Not all STI's can be treated and if she started early and catches a STI that is untreatable it will affect her for rest of her life and she will become infertile and so on.

You sound mature so don't worry about losing it so early. I feel it best you wait and be the mature on of your friends.

If they carry on they will get something nasty, end up a single mother and get a reputation.

Wait girl, you have rest of your life to have sex!

Lx

Answer 4

I was 18 (nearly 19) when I lost mine - and it wasn't to someone I loved... it was because my friends had lost theirs and I felt left out and just wanted to get it out of the way. That was the WRONG thing to do. He was an idiot and it hurt a lot. I remember a friend asking me afterwards if I felt any different. I said I did, but in truth I only felt like **** as I knew I'd made a mistake - and I was a lot older then than you are now. I should have waited until I'd met someone I loved. You are 14!!! Please don't even consider this. You should enjoy being young and having fun with your friends - but not in a way that very possibly could get you in trouble. I teach and know many teenagers who think they have to do everything when they're in their teens and see people who are in their twenties as being 'past it' and 'not having a clue' but believe me, the time will come when you'll realise that even in your twenties (and thirties/forties/fifties etc..) you still make mistakes and do stupid things you regret. Therefore, you should wait as long as you possibly can before you make this important decision. It'll be one you can never take back. I'm 30 now and I've had many relationships - some with people I thought I loved and some with others who weren't great people, but you live and learn... it's only now that I'm 30 that I'm with someone I think deserves me and someone I trust and feel 100% comfortable having sex with. If only I'd waited for him, I wouldn't have had many of the bad experiences I did. Be brave - by being brave that means NOT having sex until you're ready. That takes a lot more guts than what your friend did!!

Answer 5

you keep your knickers on girl, 13 or 14 is way too young, legal age is 16, there a lots of issues about sex, it doesnt make you look or feel big if you have done it, it should make you feel responsible if you havnt, you are being the adult by not doing it, well done, there is no rush, you have the rest of your life in front of you, so wait till you are more mature. your friend is just getting herself a name, boys will not respect her, and in a few years time, they will keep away from her, wondering what she has got, sleeping around especially at an early age is not good for your street cred. when I was young there was a name for girls like that, (sluts) and you dont want that name

Answer 6

You are far too young too even think about loosing your virginity, if your friend has lost her virginity, it is no wow, its silly and stupid, what if your friend gets pregnant, then it won't be so brilliant. Your not even mature yet, you are still in puberty, you have a way to go, if you want to lose your virginity, grow up first, when you are older, find someone you love, when you lose your virginity, it should be special with that special person, when you lose your virginity you want to remember it forever, its only once you go through that.. You are young that is not nothing to embarassed about, other people lose there virginity to make themselves look big, and fit it with the rest of your friends, but i bet not all them think it was wicked.. So i think you should.. don't let anyone push you.. follow your mind and heart, believe in yourself. Live life your still young grow up slowly and enjoy it... Good Luck

Answer 7

The right age is the LEGAL age. 14 is far to young, you should never lose your virginity you should wait to give it to someone. Sex isnt something to be taken so lightly as at 14 you are still classed as a child (if anything emotionally). Your friend might think shes clever for losing it at 13 but slapper comes to mind when i hear of things like that. Dont risk your name being dragged through the mud, wait until you can be sensible about it and USE PROTECTION!

Answer 8

You have to be 16 to have sex thats the law, Why would a 13 year old want to have sex anyway? is it to look cool.
Please think about this carefully, the consequences for the boy are also something to remember if he has under age sex with you.
And for me it s about self respect, 13/14 is to young, there is so much more at your age than sex , another thing to think about are infections and pregnancy, do you want a baby at your age ? You have a big world to explore and your whole life ahead of you, wait untill your older and find the right person.....please . karen , Youth worker.

Answer 9

The best age to loose your virginity is when you meet the man of your dreams and don't have to regret the event. I think the adult thing to do is wait until you are ready and not to worry about what everyone else is doing. Your friend could become pregnant or even worse, she could contract a sexually transmitted disease. (like AIDS) You definitely wouldn't feel jealous or embarrassed about it if she went through these things.

Your virginity is very precious. It is one of the only things that is ONLY yours. You should treat it like the important thing that it is.

Nothing in you changes when you have sex. You just assume the risk of getting pregnant or sick with an STD when you do it. That is why it is the best practice to wait until you meet the man you want to be with forever. If you can't honestly say that you could be connected with this man FOREVER, don't have sex with him because becoming pregnant with his child binds the two of you for at least 18 years 9 months....

Answer 10

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