This order is against him. I have the kids and I am planning a vacation in two weeks to go home to my family for a week. He told me because of the pending case I cant take the kids out of the state either. I do not believe him. I know he is not suppose to, but I can right?
2007-08-01 08:27:38 · 15 answers · asked by lynzierob 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contact the District Attorney (or equivalent) and ask them directly.
My short answer would be no, and he is just upset about it.
2007-08-01 08:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If a restraining order has been placed on him not to come around you then he just cannot come around you.
I am unsure if a protective order is the same as a retraining order but it's used in domestic violence cases too..
to keep the violent person away.
Please call your local magistrate's office and ask them. They'll know! You can find the phone number in your phone book or call info...
Don't allow him to prevent you from going on a nice vacation with your kids....that's what it sounds like he is trying to do.
2007-08-01 08:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious, but I do have heavy sociological / anthropological background. If you feel the need to "fear" your God, then it's because you feel guilty for something, or you want to feel victimized. Most folks don't fear their God. They love their God. God is like the ultimate leader. As Machiavelli said, a good leader must be both loved and feared. If he is just loved, then people will still do what they want against his wishes at times. If he is just feared, then they won't love their own lives, only doing what he wants out of fear of ramifications. If they love and fear him, then they will do what he wants out of love and respect first, and out of fear second. Let me try to use a different analogy for God... God, in most peoples' eyes, is like a good parent. A good parent uses 2 parts love and 1 part discipline to ensure people lead a good life. 1 part love is unconditional. God loves you unconditionally, because you are his creation. (Just as a parent loves their child unconditionally). 1 part love is for positive reinforcement. God shows you love to reward your good behavior. This is what most folks call "blessings", "miracles", etc. Parents do the same with them children; give them hugs when they succeed. 1 part discipline is used for negative reinforcement. God punishes people when they've been bad. Parents do the same to children. Now, most people will follow a Godly life simply because they respect and love God due to 1 part unconditional love, and 1 part positive reinforcement. If that doesn't work then they fear the 1 part discipline. However, what's "blessing" and "punishment" from God is subjective. Different religions, and even individuals, may see something as a blessing while others see it as a curse. Everyone can see whatever they want into something. When a mother hugs a child, it's pretty tangible that it's a hug. But, when a person finds $5 on the street is that a blessing? What if it just enables them to do something bad? I think the better way to look at God is that he gives people chances. The $5 is an opportunity. How the person chooses to use that opportunity dictates whether it's a "blessing" or "curse".
2016-05-20 01:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by tabetha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no custody issue right now and nothing to say that you don't have the same rights you've always had as a mother. If you have doubts, go to the local courthouse and ask them flat out. Is there any reason I can't take my kids on vacation? If there is an issue you want to make sure you have time to request from a judge that he or she allows it.
2007-08-01 08:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by jwsou812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an open custody case you should check with a lawyer or the courts to see what the laws are in your state. If it is just the domestic violence thing, you should be able to go where ever you want as long as you are back for court.
2007-08-01 10:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by aly_des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently went thru the same situation, I was leaving the state the weekend following the assault, I asked the police officer personally if I could leave and he told me yes I could. I did and was gone for 5 days with my daughter. He couldn't do a thing about it because if he contacted me or my daughter he would have went straight to jail.
2007-08-01 08:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by mean60 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You best ask the clerk of the court that ruled the order. Many times parts the protection order applies to both parties.
2007-08-01 08:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are a witness or the complaining party who may be needed in court (if there is a court date soon) you should be able to travel freely. If you aren't sure of any court appearances that may be necessary call the court in which jurisdiction of this action is held and ask and make sure you advise where you will be and a number they can contact you if needed. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-01 08:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's a custody case, then you can't take the kids out of state. If you are a witness you'd need to stick around. But if it's just that he is being arraigned, you're free to go.
2007-08-01 08:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he doing talking to you....doesn't a PO...mean he can not contact you??????
Call the court and ask them....why trust the person that hurt you in the first place.
I personally think it means that he can't go near you....No matter where you are....you are free to do as you please...you are the victim.No orders were put against you were they???
Just make sure that it doesn't mean that you are abandoning him or running with the children...Clarify it.
best wishes
2007-08-01 08:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call and talk to your lawyer and tell them that you and the kids are going out of town. I dont see where it would be a problem that you are taking the kids out of town. But you never know these days esp in different state.
When I was going threw my divorce I was moving to another state and they told me as long as I told my lawyer I was moving out of state that I couldnt be charge with kidnapping. Even though my ex husband said that he was going to get me on kidnapping charges cause I moved out of state. It didnt work in his favor cause I already let my lawyer know where I was moving!
Best of luck to you and enjoy your vacation!!
2007-08-01 08:36:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋