Ok so I've been datng this guy for 7 months. We've had our ups and downs cause hes those afraid to commit types so we arent bf / gf. It was fine for me in the beginning b/c I had just got out of a 2yr relationship and then started dating this guy.Anyways, we've come a long way. I've opened up more as he has too, hes been great, sweet,attentive, tells me how much he cares for me and has love for me. But he made this comment that pissed me off. He was telling me how a coworker of his smacked him on the head playing around & he told his coworker that he plays &jokes around but doesnt like anyone touching or looking at him other than me. That made me happy so I said thats right and made a playful grab at his area. He enjoyed it and was like thats right & you better make sure to please me alot if you dont want me to get it from someone else. It just made me mad that he would say that period, you know? I got so mad that I was like well if thats all it takes to lose you then go.
2007-08-01 08:17:58 · 3 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hes a great guy and is very attractive and so I already have to deal with girls being all over trying to get his attention and then hes going to tell me oh you better please me right or i'm out of here. I just dont think you should talk to people like that if you supposedly care for them so much as he claims he cares for me. He got mad that I got mad and told me that I was acting like a child. That in reality thats what happens. When someone isnt pleased they go and find someone else. I understand that but it was uncalled for and didnt need to hear it, you know? And I want someone to be with me not just for the sex but because they love me. We’ve always had issues where he’ll be insensitive and he puts me in situations where I just start to think what the hell am I doing here?And I’ll leave him and well he’ll come after me and I’ll continue to date him. But I’m someone who is looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming... cant live without each other love.
2007-08-01 08:18:23 · update #1
I guess it bothers me so much because we’ve talked about his past relationships and he has gone and completely broken them off after like a year and half saying that his reason was that he just didn’t want to be with that person anymore. Not because they were fighting or there were issues you know. He just didn’t want to be with them anymore. And that kinda scares me cause I’m putting my heart out there and when he does/says stuff like that its like for what? Its like either way I’m destined to lose.
2007-08-01 08:18:52 · update #2
If you are looking for anything like a long-term relationship, he's already let you know - he's not the guy.
Even if you are happy with a temporary relationship, you need to be sure he's not running around. There is a thing called AIDS, you know.
Take care of your self!
2007-08-01 08:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Smart Kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him but don't put your total heart into him. alot of men are like that my husband says the same thing that if a man does not get pleased he will go somewhere else i believe that also. i am sure there is a man out there that will not act like this but who knows if they are thinking it and not just saying it. good luck
2007-08-01 15:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by April R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may care for you but it sounds like his fondness has a short life span. I know you're attracted to him but you should find someone who will like you for you. Go in search of true love. Forget about your self obsessed "not" boyfriend.
2007-08-01 15:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by LEMON the good life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋