I've been thinking about a certain lifestyle I'd like to try, but I don't know how to find people who are safe. (like who aren't killers or something). I'd like to hear from people who know and/or have experience.
2007-08-01 08:12:30 · 20 answers · asked by jstgrace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do the dumb answerers get the concept of "safe"? Yes, a lamp post is certainly going to net a safe option......
2007-08-01 08:21:49 · update #1
Get contract HIV/AIDS then go to an support group. You will find like minded couples that have NOTHING to lose.
I've never had the desire to do that and never had any sexually transmitted desease.
2007-08-01 08:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 8⤋
The fact is when you embark on that lifestyle and you are looking for a person or a couple to share that with, it's almost like dating. You should try going to an alt party and do NOTHING the first few times you go to these places. It's very tempted to party, party, party but remember you are looking to get to know a nice attractive and responsible couple. The last thing you need is to get involved with a couple who are doing it for all the wrong reasons and are full of drama and jealousy. Why complicate your life. Foremost, understand going in that you have to set a rule. Keep the lifestyle in it's proper place. Don't let it own you or rule you and keep it out of the rest of your life. I've been there. It can be great and it can be horrible and if you pick the wrong person/people to do this with it will mess up your life.
2007-08-01 15:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by jwsou812 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is loads of information on the inter-net. Your best choice is to go to a swinger club where you can get acquainted, meet people, and learn much more with no pressure to do anything. Do a search on your computer of swinger clubs and you will get hundreds, if not more, sites to look at. A lot of it will be advertisements, but there will be real clubs, then narrow it down to your area, and make contact, you will find most of them are very nice people.
2007-08-01 15:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by K K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are right there are swingers clubs all over. It is like dating and you wouldn't give it up on a first date either.
But beware, introducing third parties in the bedroom can be a wicked force of distruction to a relationship. One from which there is no return.
fantasy is fun and can be played with and discarded between the two of you, less so with a third/fourth. Unpredictable dynamic.
Old Guy
I am available for parties and weekends
2007-08-01 15:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No matter what, use protection. Try a swingers club if you live a big city. But your best bet is word of mouth. An attactive female is highly sought after by swingers so any you dig up will probably want you.
2007-08-01 15:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have the perfect place for you to go. You have to set up a profile but I get about 10-12 reposnses a day to choose from. The web-site is www. ashleymadison.com. REALLY a very good place to meet people.
2007-08-01 15:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by mitch9262002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a website that's pretty good: http://www.swinglifestyle.com/?signup=google.swinger
Swingers have far, far less incidence of STD's then those you'll meet in the "vanilla" world. They take far better care of themselves, and practice safe sex.
I would suggest finding a club, party, or meet & greet. Attend to meet people and make connections.
I highly recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/Doin-One-Team-Swinging-Lifestyle/dp/141964193X/ref=sr_1_1/104-2068536-0787963?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1185996354&sr=8-1
2007-08-01 15:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by gromit801 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Contact your local swingers club. There is at least one in any town bigger than 10,000 people. They can answer your questions and it is the safest place you will ever be because the one with the p*ssy makes the rules. And they are enforced.
2007-08-01 15:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
swinglifestyle.com I've met some wonderful people on that site over the years
2007-08-01 16:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by peddora 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look up swingers clubs in your area. I have friends who belong to one. They started out by looking on adultfriendfinder, and then learned about different clubs and places you can meet people.
2007-08-01 15:23:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll need to join a swingers club, because their just as scared about outsiders as you are
2007-08-01 15:29:58 · answer #11 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋