I think co-habiting couples should get the same rights as married?

Question

Couples especially now that gay couples have the same rights as a married couple after two years. I think Marriage is old fashioned way way past its sell by date. I lived with a man very happily for three years until he died I put most of the work Into our relationship . Working on various properties, shopping for him helping him around the houses, doing some office work, organising our social life which he was happy about since he had always had people to do these things, I told him on the first day we met I definately did not want to marry again or have any kind of joint bank account even though he was much wealthyier than me. I would never let any man control me financially in any way, I would highly recommend this to any women. But I did love and care about him and we made a comitment to each other and he did buy me a ring. I have two Daughters who I hope will never Marry if they want to try it that is fine I will still love and care about them. I hope both will have children. What

Answer 1

I agree so does 85% of word papulation..

Answer 2

Let's get this straight: gay couples aren't content with civil unions and go ballistic about how George and Joseph should be Mr. and Mrs. and one should be the stay at home wife and one should wear the pants, etc., etc., etc.
How does that have anything to do with the rights you think cohabitating couples should have, just the same as married couples?
Why not just get married?
The foolish premise of this argument is that cohabitating is not as painful or as binding as marriage and that's why people do it. So make it have all the binding agreements of marriage - huh? Well, I'll be, if it isn't the hippie dippie generation resurrecting itself and saying they don't want to be chattel of men - and then proceeding to do the housework, run around and be the helpmeet and be, what? The wifey all over again!
And apparently, that's what gay people want too.
Halfarsed if you ask me, but then you ask the world here on answers!

Answer 3

If these rights are granted, then wouldn't people still go through the same mental decision making and thought processes before they live together as they would if they were going to get married? Might as well get married and have a party for your trouble!

Answer 4

If you want the benefits, then get married. Otherwise you have not shown your amazing commitment to one another. It seems you were devastated in the past by a bad marriage, this is not a reason to decide that all marriages are bad. Marriage is a huge commitment which deserves the privileges and rights it has. If you choose not to marry and be self sufficient, then that is your choice, and your benefits are yours to earn as well. You should not want to depend on anyone for those either.

Answer 5

No, I don't, as you say gay people have the same rights, but they are as near to married as they can get in this country, and most would welcome the chance of getting married!

I find it really sad that you hope your own will never marry, how selfish! That is not setting the right example. Why should you stop loving them if they do? Weird!

A man does not control you financially in any way, whether you are married or not.

You've had a bad experience, I'm guessing, with a complete A-hole and are letting that blight your opinion generally.

Answer 6

I must say that I disagree with your point of view here. The underlying factor here is the sanctity of marriage and all that it stands for. We mustn't forget that co-habitation goes against God. If that is what works for you that is fine but in making the decision not to marry you are also deciding to forgo the benefits that go along with it. You can't and shouldn't have it both ways.

Answer 7

you know, it seems to me that if you were that committed to each other, and wanted to take care of each other, have the same rights as married couples, then the correct answer would have been to get married. you can live together, love together, commit together, build a life together, and have all of the responsibilites to each other without marriage. I have it in my head that I don't have any intention of getting married anytime soon, although I am in a relationship with a man I love completely and would do anything for. he is listed in my will as the person to raise my daughter should anything happen to me (since her biological father has passed) and his daughter is listed in my will to be considered the same as my natural children for the sake of my will and everything that is to be distributed. security isn't guaranteed in marriage, and if you're not doesn't mean you won't be taken care of in the end. and because I am one who doesn't want to rush to marriage doesn't mean that I think we should have the same rights as married couples. that just doesn't make sense to me.

Answer 8

Right of Domestic Partners are virtually the same as being married. You have to be living together at least 6 months to be recongnized as such. You can even be on your partners insurance at work and everything.

Some people do not need the state's recognition to feel "secure" in a relationship.

Answer 9

I agree with you on your views of of marriage. However, I do not agree that cohabiting couples need the same rights as married couples because then they would in effect be married. For the most part you do have the same rights anymore. You can own property, split bills, maintain separate finances in many instances cover each other on insurance policies, give a power of attorney, and many other things while still keeping your Independence. Some time ago I made the decision to have no more children, and to have no future marriage. I am happy with those decisions and the way my life has developed and will continue to develop. I also feel as you do about my children.

Answer 10

I disagree. I'm not usually judgmental about other people's opinions, but you had to go and say that "Marriage is old fashioned way way past it's sell by date." And that is just close-minded.

Answer 11

that is fine marriage is good and therefore there are not all women who can say that. there are people that want to be married and when the other is gone benefit fromt he other and not because there is money but because they are one. i mean hey you had some children and its sad so say that but i do agree with you on gay people and their rights they have the same rights we have and that is good i am with you on this. If they don't get married then when one is gone they lose alot in alot of states they can't have meds and so much is lose to them so it would be great. good luck in your future.