"How dare you assume I care about your sexual orientation?"?

Question

Would you buy, wear or sell a t-shirt that said that?

Personally, I think it's none of my business except when it's an issue in giving advice. And before you belabor the obvious, it doesn't matter for the purpose of hitting on women for three reasons. First, WHY they say no isn't important, as long as "no" is accepted graciously. Second, my odds have always been marginally better with Lesbians than hetero women. Third, lesbians often enjoy the atttention if it isn't obnoxious and the fact that the stakes are low lends itself to outrageous mutual flirting.

Do I really have a need to know for general purposes?

You really should get down off the ridge more, blue.

All I'm asking for Wicky.

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The outrageous flirting has been with open lesbians, Honeyb, and the fact that they get as over the Top as I do, leads me to believe that they're having a good time.

Gay is a general, preference JJJJ which often doesn't apply to specific cases.

I put more emphasis on Lesbians because I have more contact with them and more interest in them, Gaymes. Certainly I'm not uncomfortable with discussing another man's sexuality. I just don't like it as an icebreaker. If there is a reason why I should know, it's cool.

Has this gone past the point of being a question and become me holding court?

Answer 1

No, but I think I would like the str8 person who would wear one.

But it comes from a different political problem than the "How dare you assume I'm straight" tee shirt.

Lots of people (present company excluded, maybe) go around assuming that unless the guy is a FLAMER, that he's str8.

I don't know lots of people who go around presuming people are gay untill they find out otherwise.

So no, you really don't have a need to know. But lotsa people out there do need to know that not all little boys are born to love little girls and vice versa.

Answer 2

I don't agree with your third reason. Flirting is done mainly with the prospect that something more may come of it. That's "may" not "will", meaning that possibility exists. If ones sexual orientation would preclude this from happening (or anything else for that matter, such as being married or engaged), then not telling that person is you selfishly wasting their time. And time is all any of us really has in this world.

But I don't see why people have to just go around telling you their sexual orientation when it isn't an issue at hand. Especially since that isn't all that you are as a person, so why constantly be bringing it to the forefront as though it were?

Answer 3

No real lesbian is flirting with you.

And why do you assume that we all care for you to know?

Edit**

Most woman like myself don't care if you know or not. I don't go around broadcasting it and you can't tell from looking at me that I love the tough of another woman. I'm very feminine. It's the srt8 people that find out about me and can't wait to spread it around the office like it's the answer to Da Vinci Code! Who cares other than the woman I will date? Str8 people make it a big deal!

Answer 4

Given the context that you have put emphasis on lesbians in your question, would you really be willing to discuss another man's orientation if it was other than straight? I suppose you don't need to know the general purpose, but then I also suppose you have not seen the world with a gay man's perspective in that detail.

*Edit: Thanks for the clarification, in that case, I'd agree. One really doesn't go out wearing the tag that calls for conditions where you can start or end a conversation on. If I'm gay, it's something personal to me, not everyone is privileged enough to get a peek inside my most intimate details in life. Sorry, I didn't mean to hold you in court for this, your point is valid.

Answer 5

Uh................I must really live a secluded life 'cos I don't even understand what the T-shirt is supposed to mean......
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EDIT: No! MadPol! NO! I will stay up on my mountain where life is beautiful and I don't have to come in contact with confusing T-shirts!

*giggle*

But while I don't care one way or the other about sexual preference of others, I can certainly see why some people would want to be very upfront about it. And let's face it, the frothing rightwing fascists have, indeed, put gays on the defensive. What business is it of theirs, for god's sake?

No, I would not buy, sell, or wear a t-shirt like that.

The tighta$sed religious freaks have MADE everyone's sexual orientation EVERYONE's business. If they'd mind their own business, it wouldn't be a topic of conversation, now would it?

Answer 6

I don't wear T-shirts that have any type of writing on them. However, I do enjoy reading them and bumper stickers, and this statement is the way I feel. I really could care less.

Answer 7

I would neither buy nor wear a t-shirt that said that. I might sell it if I could turn a profit.

Answer 8

Exactly! I'm glad to see someone gets it.

Why do I care if you "Come Out"? I have absolutely no interest whom you have sex with. Anyone that feels they have a need to tell me about their sex life is someone I cane not to hang out with.

And the stickers on the car that say you are gay, what's up with that? You never see straight people do this. Is this like saying "I'm gay and now I'm in your face, what are you going to do about it?"

Peoples sex lives are private matters. Trust me, no one is interested who you choose to have sex with. Keep it to yourself and the person you're doing.

Thanks, good post!

Answer 9

I would certainly buy one. A lot of gay people treat the fact that they are gay as the whole basis of their identity.

Answer 10

Nice idea. If i am prepared to wear a 'kiss the gay chef' apron i am prepared to wear that.