Sometimes a married man want to be alone with his best friends;men or women, to talk particular subjects without the presence of his wife.I think a man has that right.
What do you think? 10 points to win.
2007-08-01 07:03:27 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don
Yes, but not if its done with a lack of respect for the partner.
Committed relationship should be based on mutual respect, if one partner sway that balance by telling the other what they are going to do regardless of what the other feels then - no.
If it is the case of the wife, being jealous, not trusting etc then this issue should be cured, not inflamed.
Even couples have the right to their own social lives & in a healthy relationship this balance of trust, mutual respect, not crossing personal boundaries & true communication allows for a loving relationship where both can, if they wish, have independant social lives.
Pam
2007-08-01 07:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do i think? mmm well 1st of all let me tell you, you are wrong. Being married is not a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Being Married is more filled with responsibility and there are limits to what one can do. I do agree that a married man would want a time with his friends ( a reunion type of thing) But for a married man to hang out with women only even though there are friends with out his wife. That's a big NO. the man is asking for problems. because think about it. how about we change the scene around and lets say a married women needs time with her friend either men or women..The husband will definetely not aprove for his wife to be spending time with some other men other then him. It's acceptable if when you gather with your friends, it's a group of friends men and woman. But come on now, you dont want to leave your wife in the corner. Don't think because you are married you can do the same thing you use to do when you were dating. Once you say " I DO" everything changes forever. And No a married man cant go out whenever he wants to. It be nice if you could communicate with your wife. Compromise and communication anf trust are the main keys for a successful marriage.
2007-08-01 07:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by ~Beba~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I'm sure you haven't noticed,women who have a young one running screaming through the house and are pregnant/just gave birth are NOT the most sexually radiant creatures on the planet. A kid in the Terrible Two's makes a Mom enough of a mess,add in the spit up,poop and other fluids a newborn deposits on you and any sex starved man will turn you down. Not to mention that a home with TWO crumb crunchers that small in it is not exactly The Ritz when it comes to ambiance for romance,correct? Let's ask ourselves another question. Has the man in question been shoved to the back of the bus in his own home? Are you one of those "MY baby" women? Are you looking like a train dragged you through town when he gets home? Has your bed turned into a de facto crib? Those things don't say "Come take me,Big Boy" to him. If you want romance and/or sex from the guy you've gotta give him a woman he'd want to f*ck and a place to do it in. Honey,he just wants a piece of @ss where there is some peace and quiet. I'm NOT saying what he did was right,but I CAN see why he did it. Look,I've given my husband four boys. Did I always lool like The Breath of Spring when he walked through the door? Hell no. But 5 out of the 7 days of the week I cleaned up and looked my best for him. Kids in our bed? Never,not once. That's where Mommy reminds Daddy why Daddy married Mommy in the first place. A department you seem to have been slacking off in. Happy dogs don't leave the yard,Dear. Oh sure,if anyone understands how much work it is to raise kids it's me. Hard work,no rest,yada,yada,yada. And? We knew what the job entailed when we signed up for it,no one held a gun to our heads and made us get pregnant,did they? Of course not. But one thought that NEVER left my mind was that I damn well better take care of the guy who was here BEFORE all those kids or he might not be here by the time they all grew up and left the house. You may wish to do the same.
2016-04-01 07:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a married man needs a night out with his friends I would call that very normal. However, his wife and family should be his top priority. I would agree that everyone needs alone time.... but the marriage relationship should be more important than hanging out with other women
2007-08-01 07:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any married man or wife has the right to go out with friends and have a respectible time out.
2007-08-01 08:32:38 · answer #5 · answered by beliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need other women to talk to if you're married? If you need to talk to a woman you have a onderful one at home. Out with the guys the answer is YES. Out with the guys and the girls, take the wife along a few times, once she knows whats going on I'd bet she stops coming with you.
2007-08-01 09:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That’s a double standard that I highly doubt any woman would put up with for very long. The whole thing about a relationship with a man, or a woman is that you guys are sharing together…friends, family, time, secrets and anything else. Granted everyone needs their own personal space and I do agree that in a relationship you still need to have that time. It is ok to hang out with boys for a weekend or even go on a fishing trip with the boys…but you need to feel the same way when it comes to girls turn to go hang out with ladies. I find it absolutely ridiculous that any man would sit there and expect his woman to let him go out and do what ever he wants with whom ever he wants and then turn around and tell his girlfriend or wife, “NO!” That’s chauvinistic and ignorant period! Why is it a woman is supposed to trust her man and have faith in him when he goes out with whom ever he wants, but when comes time for the woman’s turn it’s like a deal breaker in the relationship? Trust goes both ways not just your way!
2007-08-01 07:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as everything is on the up and up, I see nothing wrong with a guy having an occasional guys' night out, and vice versa if that's what she wants. It's all about moderation, and as long as the couple spend quality time together themselves, it shouldn't be a problem. I only think it becomes a problem when one party starts to feel uncomfortable with it, and the other refuses to see the point.
2007-08-01 09:58:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as the wife is okay with it, I guess it is fine. Personally, I would not remain married to a man who felt it was his right to date other women. Everyone needs time alone with their friends. But flat out telling your spouse that she cannot accompany you is bound to raise suspicions about what exactly you are planning to do. Really, what do you need to talk about with these other women that requires your wife not being present? Sounds sketchy to me.
2007-08-01 08:00:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a man has a right to go out once in a while with his friends. Just like a woman has a right to go out with her friends.
My husband & I very rarely go out without each other. If something comes up like a bachlor party or baby shower or just a girl or guys night out than why not.
The only people who have a problem with this are people who are insecure or do not trust their spouse.
2007-08-01 07:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋