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My friend Kit has been very depressed and now I know why but I have no Idea how to help. Kit's mother and mother in law were best friends since childhood in a very small town, Kit married her moms best friends son Jay her sister in law Mary always hated Kit and tried to stop the wedding but it didn't work now 30 yrs later she knows why, her mother in law has died but told a secret which DNA comfirmed they were sisters and now Kit is married to her 1st cousin which is illegal in our state Kit holds a medical lic. her marriage is a felony so she could loose her lic. Kit and Jay have 2 beautiful healthy kids who are successful themself the sister in law is threating to tell the world just to get even. Kit and Jay have had a perfect happy marriage till this. OH MY GOSH what is going to happen?????

2007-08-01 06:56:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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First, encourage your cousin to stop worrying. It is 30 years later, and too late to stop anything.

They want to talk to an attorney, and may want to get an annulment to protect themselves. The good news is that they had no way of knowing this prior to getting married (unless they were told) so they should be safe from prosecution. Generally they would only be prosecuted if someone chose to file charges -- and the sister-in-law may not be in a position to do that.

Their best option is to be open and honest about it -- not try to hide the fact. Plus, if it is Mary's mother and Kit's mother who are half sisters, they are only half cousins, and can use this in their defense.

Just try to be there for them and be a good friend.

2007-08-01 07:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0 0

I would say, "So the hell what" , it isn't like she knew she was marrying her 1st cousin. Some people may look at her different but that really shouldn't matter. If she is happy with her husband and their family is health, what is the difference. She shouldn't allow her family fall apart just because some people can't see past their own nose. It is funny to me that her mother and mother-in-law didn't know that they were sisters. I imagine they were half sisters! Which would make Kit and her husband half cousins, which is very little blood.

2007-08-01 14:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 2 · 0 0

This is so sad! None of this is Kit and Jay's fault. I don't know what the law will have to say about this if it does come out. Mary would be a horrible person to let all this be known...just because she hates Kit.

2007-08-01 14:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

What is going to happen is ultimately nothing. Odds are the in-law is just trying to cause trouble and it isn't even true. Are you SURE it is even a felony? I greatly doubt that, and I greatly doubt she can lose her medical license over it. Kit and Jay need to call an attorney and get this sorted out, but if push comes to shove, they can always just move to another state. I recommend that they get legal counsel right away, though, and if Kit is depressed, she should discuss it with her doctor.

2007-08-01 14:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0 1

I can't imagine with the crime rate being what it is that any prosecutor would waste his time prosecuting this case. It would be nothing but a day of kangaroo court. They couldn't get the case to stick because they can't prove prior knowledge of the circumstances. I'd call the sister in laws bluff and let her tell the world. I would then tell people that 'she has been having some issues since she got out of the mental institution.'

2007-08-01 14:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0 0

Wow that's sounds like something out of a soap opera. Does this Mary also hate her own brother so much that she would try to ruin his life as well? If I were Kit, I wouldn't sit around and wait while this hateful person threatened me with this kind of manipulation, I would get one step ahead of her and just expose the situation myself to anyone and everyone it might be an issue with, including lawyers, other family members, etc... It was the long hidden secret that caused all of this chaos all of these years later, and the lying and deceit needs to be exposed NOW so that everyone understands who the guilty parties were to begin with, because it certainly wasn't your friend, her husband or their kids. Unfortunately, there are going to be feelings of shock and betrayal and family counseling may be in order. But I would not allow this Mary to control the situation any longer. Hope it all works out for your friend and her family.

2007-08-01 14:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I'd tell the sister in law to go "F" herself. Bring on her best shot. I'm sure there is a way around this with some research. Probably a lawyer would be a great first step.

2007-08-01 14:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

A felony is a violation of FEDERAL LAW not STATE LAW.
Marital restriction are not governed under federal laws.
Blackmail is illegal and video tape is admissible as evidence.
The only control a blackmailer has is fear. Remove the fear and the control is gone.

2007-08-01 14:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0 0

Goodness! How awful!

I think Kit could be safe because she was not aware her husband was her first cousin when they were married. She should be proactive and contact an attorney before the mother in law.

Good luck!

2007-08-01 14:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Well, I would consult an attorney on this one. If she's a doctor, she can afford one. I am not at all sure marrying your cousin is a felony, by the way. AND, if it was done unknowingly, she might be excused. Get a lawyer.

2007-08-01 14:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1 0

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