My husband and I have very few similar interests. There is a play I want to see over the weekend but he thinks plays are boring and he suggested to go with a friend. I don't really want to go with a friend, I want to go with him. What do you think? Is it unfair for me to ask him to do something he doesn't enjoy?
2007-08-01 06:48:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot's of married couples share diffent interest the best thing to do is to talk about it ;let one another now how you feel and share one another interest ;likeif your spouse love sports music hunting fishing playig cards going to the movies going to plays or musical theater we should take some time and fine a way to make the other person feel better and try to enjoy each other because life is short and tomorrow is not promise to any one.enjoy life.peace.joyce_mrosalinda
2007-08-01 07:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Rosalinda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to answer that question, because my wife and I always had a long list of similar interests since the day we first met.
That was 39 years ago (married almost 37).
I always suggest to couples that ideally, they should have a lot of similar interests.
I'd be curious to know how it was that the two of you decided to get married in the first place if your individual interests are so different.
2007-08-01 10:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is lame and you married him. He doesnt appreciate the arts because he is narrow minded. I saw One flew over the cuckoos nest off broadway and it was an awesome play..I also saw some not so good plays....but its kinda sad he wont even give it a shot to spend time with you..
Id go with a friend and not come back till late and have a great time without him.....goto a pick up bar for drinks after...maybe hell want to go next time..maybe he wont..
2007-08-01 06:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think so, but if he does, go with a friend.
My husband and I like different things, too. We are big on COMPROMISE. For every "chick flick" or "musical" or "play" he is forced to attend, I have to attend a football, baseball, basketball or hockey game. This works for us and we've been happy for 3 decades. We do things together.
2007-08-01 06:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Activities that they have in common, or try new thing that neither of them have done before. There has to be a give and take, them him you'll go with the friend this weekend, if he takes you to a play next weekend.
2007-08-01 06:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, and he loves you, you should both make time to be active in each other's interests. You should be going to the baseball/football game with your husband to help support his team, just as much as he should be taking you to your play. Sacrifice is a big part of love, and until you learn that, you may be cheating yourself in this relationship.
2007-08-01 06:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that most people are attracted to their opposite. I would say that your husband needs to do some things that you like and vice versa.
I am lucky enough to have found and married a woman who loves the same things that I love. We do everything together and I would not have it any other way.
Take care,
Troy
2007-08-01 06:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should compromise. Do you do things with him that you don't necessarily think is exciting? You spend time with each other because you are suppose to love one another and want to help each other be happy. It is give and take in any relationship.
2007-08-01 06:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you compromise. He should go to the play with you, and you can do something that he likes to do. That's what my husband and I do.
2007-08-01 06:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure wish I knew the answer to this question.
My husband and I have been fighting about this for 30 years!
Good luck!!!!
2007-08-01 07:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Vermillion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋