He has never been able to trust anyone (not even his mom). He trusts me the most but when it comes to fidelity he gets suspicious.
2007-08-01 06:32:36 · 23 answers · asked by Diana S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im sorry but... if he didnt trust you 100% before you got married... then why did you 2 get married??? these kinds of things need to be resolved before the nuptials.
other than being honest with someone and being faithful to them, theres nothing you can do to make someone trust you... its up to them.
maybe he feels guilty about something he has done... i wouldnt go so far as to say that he cheated... but what if hes done some flirting and talking to another woman and feels guilty about it... if he could push the blame off on you, then he wouldnt feel so bad.
if i were you, i would sit down and have a long talk with him.. and if you both cant figure out what to do, then i would look into seeing a counselor.
2007-08-01 06:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Stevie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets be truthful with ourselves here, u will never trust him 100% and he will never trust u 100%. No one trusts anyone 100%. We were born with our own beliefs and the ability to think for ourselves, we were not born to be robots, all thinking the same things.
That being said, if he seems suspicious about u and infidelity and u wanna help him to believe more that u are not, try communication. If u both work, call him during ur work day when u know he can answer, tell him u just called 2 say u love him. If u r gonna be late call him and let him know why. You'll find out that after doing this a few times he'll do the same 2 u and u'll both feel better as he will start trusting more.
Communication is a must in any relationship. Be open about any mail u receive, phone call u get if he asks, soon he'll be the same 2 u.
Possibly something in his past has caused his mistrust issue and now as his wife its ur job 2 pick up the pieces...that 'for better for worse' part.
Don't push his mistrust issue, instead work it around to your favor by showing him u are open and honest, he'll not only appreciate you for it but sooner than u think he'll recriporicate and u'll both enjoy a communication filled marriage that won't have 100% trust, but would 95% be so bad?
2007-08-01 07:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many men in the world who just cannot help being suspicious. It is something to do with their warped thinking or some event they might have witnessed or heard of early in life. The only way to improve your husband's trust with you is to sit him down - face to face - and assure him with all your heart, firmly but politely, that he has no reason to mistrust your fidelity. Also discuss with him his probable feelings if you were in his shoes and he in yours. Dont forget to ask him if he is having an affair or has had an affair with a married woman or somebody else's woman. The only way to resolve such quirky mental attitudes is to confront upfront, without rubbing him the wrong side. Tell him how much you love him and that there is no need for you to go out scouting for other men.
2007-08-01 06:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has trust issues, then unfortunately, you may never be able to make him trust you 100%. The only thing you can do is be trustworthy, and know in your heart that you are. You can't change other people's feelings, but you can change their perceptions if you can show them you are worth trusting.
2007-08-01 06:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by sdgirljen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he get suspicious? If you have never given him reason to suspect your fidelity, he's a nut case., and I'd be suspicious that HE weren't faithful.
2007-08-01 06:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to trust you- it has to come from him. If he is possessive and jealous then he is very insecure and no amount of modifying your own behaviour to suit him will work- you need to decide whether you want to live with someone who will not change.
Sorry to sound harsh but it is true.
2007-08-01 06:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust your marriage is doomed. He should see a counselor to find out why he has trust issues.
2007-08-01 06:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be truthworthy and dont give him any reason to doubt you; BUT it seems like he has issues of his own that he needs to address. He needs to talk to a counselor of some sort to get down to the nitty gritty of why he has a hard time trusting people.
2007-08-01 06:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need counseling. He uses sex and trust as a control tool and you are falling into the victim who forgives pattern. Stop it. Get help or get out.
2007-08-01 06:37:38 · answer #9 · answered by skycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suspicion and infidelity go hand in hand. Perhaps he has a problem with the way you interact with other men. He may view it as being more than just friendly or overly friendly. Perhaps the way you dress he thinks is suggestive. Explore this with him.
2007-08-01 06:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋