well im american and my boyfriend korean/russian who lives in almaty kazakhstan with his wonderful family. for starts kz is NOTHING at all like the movie burat.. the people in that movie dont even look kazakh. well he lived here in the US with me for 1 year, we have been dating living together, and now he has gone back, he cannot reenter the country for another 2 years.. if you were me, and you knew that this was the person you were going to marry and start a future with would you pack up and leave everything here in america and sacrafise 2 years to move there with your love? I am being faced with this decision.. he has a home i can stay in, he has a job waiting for me, i have no children no debt no car payments, so i ask myself what is holding me back.. Is KZ and moving there temporary for him sound crzy to anyone? would you move to a foreign country to be with the one you love? give me advise if you have had the same experience?
2007-08-01 06:13:02 · 14 answers · asked by *starrynight* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would check the laws regarding women and rights and married rights ... I have heard horror stories about people married ten years and then getting stuck in a third world country and being brutalized because they gave up all their rights by getting married and being an American suddenly seemed very valuable ... but did them no good.
If you can keep yourself legally safe ... well, love conquers all bounderies, right? Just don't be stupid about it.
2007-08-01 06:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is something there that your instincts are telling you not to go. I would trust it.
How well do you actually know him? You've only known him for a year and he cannot enter the United States for two years. Has he proposed to you? If there is no indication of a more serious relationship, then I would not go.
Have you actually visited his home and met his family? He could be saying that you have a job and a place in his home, but it may not be true.
I'd say stay here. If he truly loves you, the time apart should not make any difference. Don't give up your life and career here for something like this.
2007-08-01 13:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a really big desision to make. You can come back and enter the country anytime you want, because you are a citizen. So you could come back and see your family at will. However, I too would be nervous about leaving everything behind and go off to a forgine country. I think you need to way out the pros and cons of moving. Why don't you take a trip out there and see what you think. Take about 2 weeks. If you like it, come back get your things and stay. If not, then you just come home.
2007-08-01 13:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were talking about italy or hungry id say go for it, but your not, your talking about middle east to the south and southern siberia to the north you deffinatly need to do a damn good bit of reasearch before you go, infact id even go as far as trying to contact the american embassy in that counrty, ask them what the political climate is for americans, and make sure that there is an embassy with in a reasonable distance from where you will be staying remember kazakhstan is borderline 3rd world, who knows it might be great, but be as sure as you can before you go
2007-08-01 13:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never been in that situation, but if you love him go for it. i mean its so hard to find somone you love, and if you do'nt see him for 2 years. alot can happen in that period of time, people change, you never know how you will feel about each other after that.
if you can have a job there, a place to live, and you get along w/ his family, why not? honestly if i were you wouldn't want anything to get imbetween me and the person i love.
2007-08-01 13:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you have the makings of a real life there.
I don't think I would live my whole life there though (being American), BUT There is more than one way to live a life.
2007-08-01 13:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by drawman03 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First go for a visit. That way if you don't like it then you can come home. Make your mind up after a visit to the country.
2007-08-01 13:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound crazy at all. And yes, I would move to another country for the man I love in fact, that's exactly what I did.
I'm Australian and he's American.
2007-08-01 13:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't bother to marry you while he was here, and was ok with shacking up and having sex with you without the respect to make you his wife. Now you want to go to some weird country and shack up with him for another 2 years, and he expects you to go out and work to pay your own keep?
If he loved you at all or respected you at all, he would have married you. His parents must think you're a
2007-08-01 13:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
NO and NO and NO
I would never ever leave the greatest country in the world to follow some man.....either wait the 2 years or move on and date others
2007-08-01 13:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋