she is pregnant and closing off all of her old love to me. i feel like now that she is pregnant she doesnt have to show love for me anymore and is always bitching at me. i understand that her emotions are changing because of the pregnancy but how do i know if things will ever go back or if i am a fool for staying with somebody who doesnt love me anymore. p.s. she doesnt ever want to talk about things just always complains and is never happy anymore.
2007-08-01 06:09:17 · 20 answers · asked by David J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's not her...it's her hormones. They take over and they are really hard to control. Give her space (but not too much) and patience and hopefully things will get better in a little while.
2007-08-01 06:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi David. I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling rejected by your girlfriend. It doesn't seem fair that she isn't willing to talk about things with you, however, maybe she doesn't have the right words to share with you right now. Pregnancy hormones do cause hormone fluxuations (I've been there!) but that does not give your girlfriend the right to treat you poorly. Ask her if there is anything you can do to make her more comfortable. Ask her to share her honest feelings with you...then do not blame her for the way she feels. It's better that you know the truth about what's running through her head, even if it's hurtful. I know this is a stressful time for both of you...a new life is a huge responsibility and nothing will ever be the same; it's important that you both keep focusing on how this baby came to be concieved...love. You loved eachother first, and you need to get back to that as soon as possible. Just stay flexible and be strong for the both of you right now. Your girlfriend needs to know you still think she's beautiful and loved, and you need to let her know you're there for her to talk to. Hope this helps!
2007-08-01 06:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, put yourself in HER shoes.
She's not married.
She's pregnant.
Her body is changing.
Her mood swings are all over the place.
Her life is changing permanently, and she's mentally going into "nesting mode.".
There are a lot of unknowns suddenly in her life.
oh yeah,
...and she's got a boyfriend who's only thinking of himself right now. She's not even sure you're going to stick around.
If you stay together and have the baby, where are you two going put the baby's room. (oh great, now a possible move while she's pregnant.)
Gee, what more could she want? All her dreams have come true!
You dolt ! She wants a commitment from you.
Either marry her, or do her and the baby both a favor, leave now and make arrangements for child support for the next 21 years.
2007-08-01 06:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the love of God please do not give up. I used to be that miserable pregnant girlfriend. She needs you now more than ever. Just hold on and things will get better. I was the same way and I had no explanation. I was just miserable and pissed. It had nothing to do with my boyfriend but because of his love and support we made it through. It takes time and consistency. We are now married and very happy with our 4 month old baby boy.
2007-08-01 06:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their is a lot going on with her body right now. I felt like my body betrayed me. She is probably feeling sick and emotional and i'm sure apprehensive about the changes in her life. I was a total ***** to my husband and I ignored him, yet he still took wonderful care of me. It'll get better in a few weeks. When she is less sick she'll show you more love. Just show her that you care.
2007-08-01 06:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by collietta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant can be pretty miserable. With my own experience and watching the many friends that I have go through a pregnancy, I can tell you that it will change once the baby is born. You will both be so happy with your new little angel. Jutst be patient with her.
2007-08-01 06:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by kimberly M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait it out. her hormones are in control now. she is literally possessed and not in control of her feelings.
My friend was telling me about his friend that just got married. he is totally in love with his wife and they were both so happy when they found out she was pregnant. then she started acting strange. they fought all the time and she even threw stuff at him and locked him out of the house. he was so sad because he loved her so much and now he thought she hated him. My friend was wondering what could he do. how could he help her? I told him to tell this guy just to agree with his wife all the time and wait it out. she will get back to normal soon. After the first trimester, a couple of months later, my friend calls me to tell me that his friend and wife are so happy now. everything is back to how it was when they were newlyweds. they should now be a happy 3 some.
It takes time for those hormones to balance out. forgive her for acting this way, but she is pregnant, what did you expect? try to agree when you can, even if you think she is being irrational. One minute she can be angry, then crying, then laughing. It will be like this until she is balanced.
remember, she is carrying your baby and in need of some pampering, not just because of the baby, but because you care about her. when i was preggo, i was so mad at my bf all the time because i kept thinking that the only reason he was paying all this extra attention to me was because he only cared about the baby. this turned out to be true in my case and i dumped the guy after i miscarried, but i'm sure it's different in your case. you seem to love your gf because you are so concerned.
let her know that you love her and it hurts to see that she is so angry all the time. let her know that you will always be there for her if she ever wants to talk, but you would really like some reassurance as well that she loves you.
2007-08-01 06:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Malina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your mature enough to have kids then why don't you just get married.
However, she is pregnant and you have to support her. I'm sure there's things going on inside her that you don't understand.
If things are still bad, seek counseling. Also, check this book out: Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It will open your eyes. I suggest read a chapter a night with her until it done. It will take a whole 20 minutes of your life a night.
2007-08-01 06:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all... she's Pregnant... trust me, I've been through it and most of the time you don't want to deal with anyone!!! I'm sure she loves you, but she's going through a lot of emotional and physical changes... I'm sure she doesn't even know why she's doing some of the things she does.... please stick around, at least until the baby is born, after a couple of months, if you're good to her, i'm sure things will be great...
2007-08-01 06:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by colombiana82 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your gf so that's hard to say for sure. She acted distant for a reason. even if you don't think so she may feel like you arnt as involved as she would like or that you don't like her very much. there are a TON of things she could be thinking like "we have only been together for 5 months and now he probably feels like he has to be with me" NO girl wants to feel like the only reason a guy is hanging around if because they have to. Make sure she knows you like her. And by a "break" she means space. Clear things up with her and try to be patient with her emotions, after all she is pregnant.
2016-04-01 07:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋