When my (now) husband gave me the engagement ring, I have to say it was not what I was expecting. He said he was saving money for about a year to give me something spectacular and then I received a ring I could have bought within two months with a small diamond. I was happy be cause we were to get married, and I love him but... that is not what I had in mind I don't even like wearing it at all...
But I love him, the ring is not the most important thing it’s just that I don’t get it.
2007-08-01 06:05:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What I was complaining about is that he SAID he was saving but he obviously wasn't, that's all.
2007-08-01 06:26:10 · update #1
Marriage is not about a ring, its about a promise and a relationship. I understand being dissapointed in a small ring but I'm sure there are other things that you do have that are much more important.
If you really have your heart set on a bigger ring that is more in keeping with your taste maybe you can talk to your husband about saving together for a ring for your next "big" anniversary.
Good luck.
2007-08-01 06:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a woman, I find it hard to believe you. Sorry.
You said you are complaining about his habit of lying, but that may not be the case.
Happiness lies not in ornaments. All the diamonds of Elizabeth Taylor could not give her a stable relationship.
Try to learn to be satisfied at less, Darling. See the care and affection behind the ring, not the ring as an inanimate object of only material value.
And if you are earning, why you are poking your nose into his finances? Keep self respect, Darling. You cannot claim gender equality and ask for money from him at the same time.
I am sounding harsh but I am trying to help you only to sustain the relationship.
I guess the guy is nice and try to be stable with him at relationship.
2007-08-01 06:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's so wrong to be a little disappointed with your ring...it's kind of like getting a Christmas present that's not what you wanted. You're grateful, but... I don't think you're a gold digger. You said you love him and you know the ring's not the most important thing.
Maybe he didn't realize what you wanted. Maybe it's a vintage ring??? or maybe he thought it was special for some other reason than its size? Maybe you're a little bit of a romantic perfectionist?
A lot of people pick out their rings together. I think the suggestions to get a different one on a special anniversary are good. Or just buy your own. Someday you may even value the one you have now more.
2007-08-01 06:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by 1selkie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I'm going to side with you. Guys just don't get it. All they know is that they need to buy an engagement ring. They don't study up on diamonds (clarity, color, cut, carat). All they look at is the price tag. Even though your husband didn't spend much money on your ring, I'm sure the jewelry store still ripped him off.
I bought my now wife's engagement ring loose. It came from the diamond district in NYC. It is both GIA and AGS certified. Yes, it was expensive, but guess what...it's resale value and appriasal is much higher than I paid for it. More than anything, she loves it. Nothing around here comes close to what she has on her finger.
I have no regrets at all. If you'd like to study up...go to pricescope.com and if you want to check out some diamonds, go to goodoldgold.com. There are some other quality places too.
2007-08-01 06:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he did give me the one I wanted.He gave me one from his heart.He picked it out himself and he used his hard earned money to buy it.I loved it and I still love it 15+ years later.I will admit it wasn't what most other woman would have been happy with.It is a 1/4 carrot set in 10 carrot gold.But to me it was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.Because it came from my best friend.15 years later I now have rings he has bought me that cost more than some peoples years salary.But you know what that Lil old diamond ring is still my favorite.And I still wear it proudly.
2007-08-01 07:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I didn't get the ring I wanted instead I receive his ex fiance's old ring, but who cares, it's just a rock, meant to be used in the wedding ceremoney. I really didn't care for it that much, because I haven't wear it since the day I married him.
If you think about it, the resale value is so much lower than the time you bought it.
2007-08-01 06:25:23 · answer #6 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes he did! He asked me to go ring shopping 1 month after we started dating (I was 25, he was 32). He actually picked out the engagement ring and I fell in love with it. So that's the one he bought :))))
2007-08-01 06:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it was not really important to him. for your tenth anniversary do a ton of online research your self and then go with him to a good jeweler and show him exactly what you want as an upgrade ring. sometimes it takes a while for a guy to catch on and i have known about a million girls who got the ring they really wanted on their tenth. i am completely serious about this. to some guys all diamond rings look alike, just be real prepared for your tenth and help guide him.
2007-08-01 06:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unlike most people who answered your question, i understand what you're talking about.
my husband gave me a pretty small ring, too, but i totally understand why. well we were 21 when we got engaged, and he was in the process of paying some credit cards off, and didn't want to get into debt in order to buy a bigger ring. now he says he wants to upgrade, but i am glad he cared enough about our financial situation not to "go all out" and buy something he really couldn't afford.
plus, he knew we'd be paying for the wedding ourselves.
it is harder for guys to save money. they pay for the dates, they drive us around, etc.
it's okay, maybe you can upgrade in a few years!
2007-08-01 07:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by sanibrasil0428 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you bitchen? You got a ring and a hubby. So it wasn't what you thought it was going to be. You should be proud to wear it. So what if it is small. When you reach 10 years get a bigger one. Be happy with what you have dear cause it might not be there for long.
2007-08-01 06:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋