I have been by myself for 17 years and I doubt I could live with anyone and I doubt I could or would want to share my space?
2007-08-01 06:01:39 · 8 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I have been alone since 1998 and I thoroughly enjoy my freedom and independence. I do not want to date or consider marriage. All my life I've been someone's daughter, wife, mother, teacher, caregiver. There was a time for all that. Now is the time for ME! If I want to sleep late, I do. If I'm not hungry, I don't cook. If I want to surf the net all night, no one complains. And then, there's this....I don't ever want to bury another husband.
2007-08-01 06:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I ask myself this question a lot and I really think the answer is "No". My youngest child was married and left home almost two years ago. It had been just us since 1994.
I was so afraid of being alone that I couldn't believe how well (and quickly) I adapted. Sometimes I get lonesome but I just call a friend or go out for a while and that takes care of that. I have never once woke up in the middle of the night crying because I'm alone.
I work full-time as a teacher assistant and I have many interests and turning 60 didn't even make me blink. As long as God can use me, I'll be wherever I need to be and give whatever I can give to those in need.
I'm not a sock who's lost it's mate so I don't need to be discarded or re-matched. I love people but it would take a very special man to make me rethink my situation.
2007-08-01 12:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been by myself since the '60s. It gets lonely sometimes, but it's probably better than the next best alternative. Now honestly, if that special person came into my life and what few hormones I have left went into action, I would consider a relationship but strong misgivings on marriage. The reason is because the laws are not financially in favor of seniors getting married. If you have heirs to your questionable fortune and possessions you put your heirs in jeopardy even with a pre-nup. If I felt that my life required moral restitution I would prefer we find a place in the wilderness and repeat our vows together asking God for His blessing on our union. The clergy or JP only witness the vows a couple make and I can't believe God insists on that as well as payment for the privilege. Having more children is a cause to smile not only because I'm too old but any man in my age group is also. It would be primarily a spiritual union and without papers so no law can screw things up for you. This thinking probably stinks to a lot of people, but the institution of marriage was not designed with seniors in mind.
2007-08-01 07:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hahahaha, yeah, I know what you mean. I've been alone for almost 30 years and wonder the same thing. I'm set in my ways about my home which has been my personal domain for so long. It would be hard to learn to share it on a permanent basis. I'm sure anybody crazy enough to want to marry me would feel the same way. Until about six years ago, I had never considered getting remarried. I had no conception of how to love someone new without feeling like I was infringing on the love I still have for my deceased wife. We are soul mates and that is an intense love I will always have. Then my granddaughter was born and because my daughter was not yet ready to be a mother, I was my granddaughter's primary care provider for the first four years of her life. I love that little girl more than life itself. She taught me how to love again without distracting or detracting from my love for Bobbi. Now that her Mother is a genuinely good mother and I am no longer in that position, I realize how lonely I am and I am left with the dilemma spoken of.
2007-08-01 06:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Found my soulmate the third time around at 47. If anything ever happened to him I would not want another. No one could replace him. Besides breaking in a new one and all the problems of in laws and step children just would be more than I would be willing to handle. That is some exhausting stuff.
2007-08-01 16:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 34 years. It is very special. I probably could not get up to speed with someone else at this point. My wife and I founded, fatherred Forgive Affirmed Spirit. How quickly would someone else climb into that?
2007-08-01 16:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there since 1997. there was a Lady I met at Church whom I would marry in a heartbeat. but couldn't convince her so quit trying. still love her and even though I left the old hometown behind, haven't given up hope. however, if She doesn't marry me there will be no one else in my life because I never have, nor ever will settle for what is second best.
2007-08-01 10:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe you are suggesting we bring children into the world out of wedlock! Perish the thought! (of bringing ANY children into the world...can you imagine being a parent at our age?) Polls here show that by far, women prefer to live close and visit often. Men prefer to live father and visit many.... :-)
2007-08-01 08:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋