I am kinda paranoid I guess you would call it because I am only 14 and trying to be as good as a mom I can be. She is 4 weeks old and every since last week I made this chart type thing that says: Ate Wet Dirty How long she cried & start to end of crying How long she slept- start to end.
Would you call this weird or am I doing a good job? I always took them to her doctor every week (she had a doctor appt every week since she was born) and he says its great because it answers all of his questions.
2007-08-01 05:06:09 · 28 answers · asked by נєѕѕι¢α (ανα'ѕ мσмму) 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I planed on doing this for the first 2 maybe 3 months.
2007-08-01 05:24:55 · update #1
It's okay to keep a record of somethings. But your kid isn't a science project that you need to record every movement. You are doing a good job being aware of everything she is doing but calm down a little.
2007-08-01 05:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by Windy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a good idea, and will help you see patterns. If something changes suddenly, your chart will help you explain what's going on to the doctor. Eventually you'll be so comfortable with her routines that you won't keep the charts anymore. Hang onto them though, because someday she will be interested in reading about herself as a baby! It will show her how much you loved her from the very beginning.
You sound like you're doing everything right, especially since you must be tired and have worries too. Just keep loving her, asking questions and doing your best, and she'll be fine. Even if you do your best, there are going to be ups and downs. You will panic when she has her first high fever and will learn that baby tylenol helps the fever quickly. You will think that everyone is staring at you the first time she has a temper tantrum in public, but every Mother has had the same thing happen to her.. Your heart will hurt the first time she says "I hate you!" when she's a teenager, but every Mom also goes through the same thing. There will also be hugs, kisses, and special moments that make it all worth while You're very young to have a baby, but remember that even first time Mothers in their 30s have to learn how to be a good Mom. I hope you have the support of your family and the father's family -- and that your Guardian Angel looks our for you and your little girl always. Wishing you the best.
2007-08-01 05:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. They actually had a chart like that when I was at the hospital and I did a better job of updating it than they did! In fact, before I was discharged from the hospital, I asked them if they could make a few copies that I could take with me so I could use it to keep track of her progress and daily activities at home. It's a GREAT idea. Helps you remember and be able to tell the doctor, "Today she drank 4 ounces every five hours but last week she was drinking 3 ounces every four hours. She pooped three times yesterday but only once today, etc."
Kudos to you on a job well done!
2007-08-01 09:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lexie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the time, I say great. In daycare, we have to complete a daily chart and it's great for the parents to see what their child does all day. It's also great, like you said, when you go to the doctor. However, after 3 or 4 months, it becomes impractical. My 7 month old requires MOST of my time and the free time is consumed with chores and rest. I would record the milestones; smiling, rolling over, eating solids, crawling, etc., and keep track of wet, poo, eat, and sleep if you want to make sure she's doing enough, but once you start having 2,4,6,8 month checkups, the doc will probably be more concerned with your baby's overall health and less concerned with the small details. Just enjoy being with your baby and try to RELAX! It sounds like you're doing a great job. God bless you and your wee one.
2007-08-01 06:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Ian's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good idea.. Sometimes with all the comotion of life you dont have the time to notice everylittle thing.. And when you go to a dr visit you are trying to remember everythign.. Kudos..
and dont worry I am sure you are doing a great job as a mom.. I had my son when I was 17.. 2 weeks before I graduated.. I worried about being a good mom.. But then I found out that all moms do that.. It makes me happy to see these young women like you step up and take the responsiblity of being a mom.. ((HUGS))
2007-08-01 08:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that with my 1st born as well. I charted everything for the first few months. It really does help the doctors to know what is going on. By charting or keeping a mental record of her daily habits it can alert you if there is a problem.
I don't think it makes you weird. It sounds like you are doing a great job! Congratulations!
2007-08-01 05:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy112 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good thing to do, I wrote down particular behavoir my daughter was exhibiting in the beginning and it's how the pediatrician figured out my daughter has silent reflux. It really is helpful for the doctor too, I think you're doing a great job and for being so young, it's tough no matter what age - keep up the good work.
2007-08-01 08:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter stayed in the NICU for her first 3 days, and the day before she went home they had us spend the night with her in the hospital and chart all of that. That was the last time I did it. I try to keep a rough idea of how many wet/dirty diapers and feedings she has per day, and I make a note of anything odd, but all that charting is just way too much work.
There's nothing wrong with it, really, but I'd maybe spend more time playing with her and less time worrying!
2007-08-01 05:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Cloth on Bum, Breastmilk in Tum! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you are doing a great job. you are not being paranoid or weird. it is so amazing that you are 14 and is there taking care of you baby. many girls your age would have just let their mommy do it. you are being responsible and a good mother to your baby. congratulations.
this is good for the doctor keep o n doing the same thing and you will be fine, also dont forget to enloy your baby too.
2007-08-01 06:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you need to do to reassure yourself, then it is definitely the right thing to do. Start including her firsts like holding her headup, making eye contact, rolling over, etc. That's a good start on a baby book.
I maintained a similar spread sheet for my twins when they were little. I was afraid I would feed the same one twice and forget the other or something.
Keep up the good work, You're doing fine.
2007-08-01 05:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Patsy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋