Who is still happily married?

Question

I read a post yesterday about a guy who explained that he is staying married solely for the sake of his children. This was so disheartening to me. Are there people out there who are happily married after 5, 10+ years of marriage or is everyone out there miserable? I am getting married in a month and would like encouraging and hopeful stories as this mans post really got me down.

Answer 1

Keep in mind that the people who post and lurk here usually have an issue with their marriage - that is what brings them here - so don't take what you see here as a random sample of marriage (it depressed me as well until I really thought about it).

Answer 2

We have been together 3 years and married a little over one and we are still very much in love. We have 2 kids aged 18 months and 4 months. We couldn't be happier. Marriage takes work. You just have to remember when you do have kids make sure you get a sitter once a week if you can afford it so you can go out as a couple. Don't let things get too routine. Try something new. It's been working for us. Congrats!

Answer 3

Marriage is incredible. I have been married for about 1 1/2 yrs but we have not lost anything. We still have a great sex life (waited til marriage too), can have long conversations about anything, can argue but reslove it within an hr or less, we have trust, and most importantly, God. Marriages don't work out because people don't have trust, trust in God, trust in each other. Trust is the single most important part of marriage. Yes, being attracted is great but that part was when you first met, along with all the likes and dislikes (respectful, funny, temper, etc). After trust is compromise. Don't always do things one way, compromise with each other on issues. Lastly, money. Try to be smart with money, when making big purchases, talk with each other whether it is just for you, your spouse, or both. If you have trust, can compromise, and smart with money, you will never even think about divorce. Gob Bless and congrads on getting married soon.

Answer 4

Whatever you look for, you will find it.

Whether good or bad, you'll find it. We are very happily married after 5 years, and people still think we are on our honeymoon. We answer them that we still are... and will continue to be.

You can change the pitiful stats of divorce by "choosing" to have a happy marriage.

I do have a conern, however... that the stories of complete strangers is a factor of getting you down. Understand now, that your husband alone, should be your only deciding factor of how you feel. If you allow others' lives to dictate how you feel, you will be on a rollercoaster in your marriage, as well as your life. And it will affect your relationship, and you'll think that it's the relationship or him, rather than the fact that you allowed others to shape you and your choices.

Make the choice today, that you WILL be and have a happy marriage, and will work with everything to ensure that. It won't happen on its own, or because you're in love. It will happen because you "choose" and "work" at it to happen. Period.

Go enjoy your new marraige, and committ to it for life.

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Answer 5

There are many people who are happily married. I've know of several couples who have celebrated 25th, 30th, 40th, 50th and even longer than that. There's a couple in Taiwan who've been married 83 years. Another couple in Rhode Island have been married 82 years...and they still hold hands! Isn't that sweet?

As for me, my own marriage ended at 9 years (he left because he found someone else...so the divorce was not by my choice). After several years as a lone parent, I am in a happy relationship of 6 years standing, but since he gets SSI disability pension, we will probably never marry because he would lose it if we did.

However, I still believe that for some people marriage still works... that "bitter" guy is probably either just a cynic who doesn't deserve his wife...or he's afraid of the intensity of his own feelings (good and bad) about her! With men like that, they seem to think it's manly to pooh-pooh their marriage and tender feelings, but if their spouses either die or leave them, they seem positively lost...and get re-married at the drop of a hat!!

Forget him and his comment, and just focus on the positive. Best of success in your upcoming marriage :)

Answer 6

First of all, no one should stay married for kids, it will all be worse in the end. I am 21 and have been married 1 1/2 years. am so in love and everything is great. Everyday I wake up and see my husband is the best moment of the day. I fall in love over and over again everyday. marriage is awonderful thing, but it does take a lot of work. good luck and be happy. follow ur heart

Answer 7

My husband and I will be married for 5 years September 14. We have 3 beautiful children and are very happy and still very much in love. Don't let other people's horror stories bring you down, who knows what all goes on in other's lives? Congrats to you, I wish you a long happy marriage.

Answer 8

I havent been married 5 years yet but we have been married for 3 years. We also have a two year old son. I am happier then I've ever been, even more then when we first met. Dont worry not all marriages end up like that mans. Congratulations on your impending wedding!

Answer 9

10 years of marriage and very happy. The best advice about marriage is 1. It always takes work for anything good in life, why should marriage be any different, and 2. Dont go to bed mad.

Answer 10

I'm married 7 years and together over 10. Yes we still have a happy marriage. We have 7 kids, (his, mine, & ours) & we both have full time jobs. Our days & evenings can get very stressful but we help each other deal with it. We disagree about some things but we never fight over it because it won't change our opinions.

You have to respect each other and do things for each other to stay happy.