if a man or woman has a low self esteem will they pick someone less attractive than they are?

Question

does self esteem balance the scales of choice?????????????

Answer 1

If they have low self esteem they have low self worth - so they will pick someone less attractive because they may think that this is all they can get.

Answer 2

A lot of times I see people with a low self esteem picking people that dominate them, either mentally, physically, or emotionally. As far as their looks, what I have seen is the person with lower self esteem is not as attractive as their partner, because they don't feel attractive, and it shows on the outside.

Answer 3

This isn't necessarily true. When my self-esteem was not so great, I picked guys who were jerks, but they all were good-looking. You realize just because someone is attractive, doesn't mean they are a good and nice person and that picking a prospective partner based on physical appearance only tends to lead to not-so-great relationship?

You're assuming that everyone picks their partner based on looks only, which is false. Therefore, self-esteem has nothing to do with balancing anything because being good-looking doesn't necessarily mean someone has high self-esteem and vice versa.

Answer 4

Not necessarily but they can find someone for the wrong reasons then the right reasons. I would not want to be in a relationship with someone with low self esteem. That is seriously asking for problems. I don't encourage going in to a relationship where either person is not internally healthy.

Answer 5

That person will make decisions based on the core belief that they do not deserve better. Thus, they often pick jerks.
Those with good self-esteem will say that they do deserve better and will connect with quality people.
I do not know that attractiveness will be the true standard in this case, but may be at times.

Answer 6

I don't see how attractiveness has anything to do with compatibility.
I think if someone has low self esteem, they may avoid someone who they deem to be more attractive than them.
But I don't think attractiveness has anything to do with anything.

Answer 7

They may end up with someone really great or they may end up with someone absolutely horrible but they will usually be willing to settle for far less than they actually deserve.

Answer 8

They may pick someone they THINK is lesser then they are. As mates and/or friends.
Good point.
Yes I think it does, BUT there are other factures that come into play. For example; will, and determination hard work, will certainly tips the scales.

Answer 9

Perhaps not less attractive, but someone who may bully them about

Answer 10

I would say someone less attractive as more than likely they fear rejection.