This question is not about incompatibility or love between you and your spouse. It is a comparisson of married life and staying single.
2007-08-01 03:40:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you everybody. I have no idea how to rate your answers! Can I choose each one of the answers here as the best answer :)
2007-08-02 02:04:32 · update #1
There are days that I feel that being single would have been better
2007-08-01 04:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married and divorced twice (female, two kids).
Total time spent married: ten years.
Total time spent unmarried since I was 18: seventeen years.
Longest time in a long term relationship without living together: twelve years.
Overall, I think being married made it easier to be there for my kids when they were little...but because the marriages weren't "good", I don't know if it was best for them or not. I'm thinking it wasn't too bad, because they're both adults now and incredibly well adjusted.
Personally, if I could have had my kids and been able to be a stay at home mom without having a "bad" husband, I would have been a much happier person, and would probably be much healthier and happier today - but I can't imagine my life without kids (or my cat).
I have difficulty sleeping in the same bed with another person (cats are okay, though) and I'm kind of spoiled to being able to come and go as I please, and make my own choices without having to compromise with a husband about what to watch on TV, how to spend money or other stuff like that. It's the little things that add up to make life either enjoyable or not - and I've found that I enjoy just doing my own thing at least half the time.
So, for me, a long term relationship without living together and without co-mingling funds works best.
2007-08-01 10:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Johnna L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm female, I'm 32, I've been married for 8 years, and I am, over all, a happier person being married than I was being single.
I was never much of a night life kind of person. I don't like mingling with a bunch of people I don't know. It takes me a long time to build a relationship with a person. The friends I have now, are the same ones I grew up with, and I knew my husband for 2 years before we ever dated. I am also a family oriented person, so marriage fits me better than the single life.
2007-08-01 10:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea I would rather be married than stay single, the reason being is a marriage is something that is sacred and you can always learn your mate no matter what. Being single, you are just jumping from relationship to relationship. See what you invest in your marriage is what you get out of it. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and it's up to both parties to make it work. Being single is ok if that is what a person chooses but marriage in my book is awesome! Good luck!
2007-08-01 10:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 37 years old and I have been married for sixteen years. We have ten beautiful kids and I can most definitely say hand on my heart that I am happier now than I ever have been in my life. I had fun being single but there comes a stage in your life when you want to settle down and that is the most special time of all.
2007-08-01 10:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by strictmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 and have been married since I was 19 years old. I am a much happier person married, but everyone is different.
2007-08-01 10:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by blahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. I'm female. no my life wouldn't have been better. Even if we're not talking about love. i wouldn't have had my big family. I would've had to go to work ( I am not against work but I always wanted to be a stay at home mom then work later) I wouldn't have the tax and insurance benefits. I wouldn't have regular sex LOL. I wouldn't have my best friend living with me and talking to me daily. I wouldn't have him to share the chores with. And to be honest with you it does my self esteem good to know that someone thinks I'm worth making a lifetime commitment too. Nothing else in life even comes close to the feeling that someone wants to be with you and only you
2007-08-01 10:49:33 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am female and have been married over a year. Second time for me. I am happier being married as opposed to being single.
2007-08-01 10:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am female 24 years of age
been married for almost three years
and I am, over all, a happier person being married than I was being single!!!
2007-08-01 10:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Male.Married.Sometime opportunity to have sex with someone else presents itself.Thats when I say to myself (I wish I were'nt married.That's about the olny time I do that.But looking back,I really don't see the obsetion to be married,why not just live together.Then if things don't work out you just leave with no hassles,no lawyers,no splitting up stuff.Just take you **** and go.
2007-08-01 10:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by bryant c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋