My Mom and I were so close. We lived together and I cared for her through her last days. I am in emotional agony and can't seem to find my way back to normal. The part that scares me the most is that my faith has gotten all shaken up... I worry that there may not be a hereafter and that I won't see my Mom in Heaven when I die. I am praying for faith and I would love to hear from anyone who is grieving or at coming out the other side! I have never hurt so bad emotionally. It has been a month since Mama died. Is it normal not to have any energy? I'm so withdrawn and I feel sick. Any response would be wonderful!
2007-08-01 03:34:19 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey - what you are experiencing is very normal. That was your mom. You are physically drained from taking care of her and emotionally drained from that and the hurt you are feeling. I lost my mom over a year ago and I took care of her day and nite also. She was very lucky to have a daughter like you and you should be happy in knowing that you were there til the end. That is what comforts me. You will see her again. And she is watching over you now. Keep praying . Two days after my mom passed away - I checked the messages on my cell phone and someone left a song playing - no message - the song was - I will always love you. I was freaked out - but happy. It could be a bird or a butterfly that comes to your window - she will let you know she is happy and pain free now. Don't lose faith -your pain will lessen in time. Good luck - love to you and prayers.
2007-08-01 03:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Babycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey...I am so sorry this has happened to you! I wish I knew what to say in order to make you feel better; but all I can do is offer my condolences and promise to keep you and your mom in my prayers.
Please remember that you have gone through a terribly stressful and hurtful situation, and you need to give yourself time to accept things and to heal your heart and mind. A month has barely passed...Everything is still too fresh for you to move on....
What you describe as "having no energy" is a symptom of depression....If you cannot sleep, feel tired, don't eat and feel like everything is negative, then you are depressed and you need to visit a doctor TODAY!
People talk about being depressed but unless you have had a clinical depression you don't know just how horrible it is- I have! That's why I'm asking you to look for help if you feel these symptoms....((This thing doesn't go away; it grows and makes you feel sadder and weaker each day....until you can't get out of bed and the thought of taking a shower seems like too much to handle. If you get to THAT point you are in serious problems, so DON'T!))
Please take care of yourself and ask your family and friends for help and support. You should also go to your church and seek assistance....Visit your MD and see if you need to take antidepressants for a couple of months; and if you can, visit a therapist so you can deal with your pain and loss, too.
I wish you well and hope God will help you out....Your mom is already in His presence and He will listen to you if you ask for help from the bottom of your heart.
I'm sure your mom wants you to be happy and to do the things you wanted in life, so in the future try to thank her for her love and all the good things she taught you....Be a good person so she will be even prouder of you!
You will be in my thoughts and prayers, sweetie. (( HUG ))
2007-08-01 10:56:21 · answer #2 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling. Last December my grandmother died of lung cancer. I have taken care of her for years, when she had knee surgeries and sick and all. I was in the hospital almost the whole two weeks she was there, I stayed the night all the time in the hospital by her bed.....then I go to lunch for an hour and get a call from my dad that she passed while I was gone.
Someone said it was Gods way of knowing I couldnt have handeled being there. I still cry almost everyday, I keep hoping for the day I can remember her without bawling.
I will pray for you, Bless you and your family!!
2007-08-01 13:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sincere condolences for your loss. I can't imagine how awful it must be for you. Your mother has raised a wonderful daughter who cared for her. I'm sure she's very proud of you.
What you are feeling is normal. It's a devastating loss and would shake anyone's faith. There's nothing wrong with questioning. Perhaps talking with your priest or minister may help?
Your low energy could be because you have put forth so much taking care of your mom. Now that responsibility isn't there and there is a void in your life.
Getting back to "normal" will take time. I recommend you also speak to your doctor. You might benefit from talking to a counselor to help you through your grief.
God bless.
2007-08-01 10:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have gotten into a depression, which is very normal after going through something like this.
You might want to talk to your doctor about some anti-depressants just to help you get through this time.
I know how you feel.
I lost my Dad 18 yrs ago.
I was a Daddy's little girl, so it was very hard for me also.
It's never easy to deal with.
Wish there was something more I could say or do for you but there really isn't.
Why don't you post this question in the religion category? There are alot of good people on there that might be able to help you get through this ;)
Good luck and God Bless
2007-08-01 10:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going through a difficult time and everything you are feeling right now is normal. I am so close to my own mother and just thinking about anything happening to her makes me feel as if I can't go on. I feel as if a huge part of my life is ending. My mom went through the same thing when my grandmother passed away. they were so close and then my grandfather passed away in December and my grandmother passed away in June. It was hard for her to deal with, she went through depression and didn't do much of anything for a while, but she stayed in her faith and a while later realized that God puts a lot of trials in front of us just to make sure that we will stay faithful to him no matter what and if you stay faithful to him he will bless you in your life and you will see your mother again. May God bless you and I will be praying for you.
2007-08-01 10:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by beba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are feeling is normal. You miss your Mom and that is very understandable. You have to remember this though. She is in a better place. And God never gives us more then we can handle. We do question why things happen and we do get angry. We learn in time to stop being angry and ask God to forgive us. I know it is hard and I am sorry you lost your Mom. I will be praying for you. Also remember God has big shoulders to carry the things we throw at him.
2007-08-01 10:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i are praying for Your healing and broken heart. u will see your mom in heaven and u have to know that she is with u in spirit and she lives with in your heart even today. she is not in any pain and god made her new again and she is watching and comforting u now as we speak. I lost my dad 7 yrs ago and it feels like just today he is gone. I miss him so much but i know that he isnt hurting and that he is complete and visiting with all of our friends and family in heaven. not having energy is normal it is part of the grieving process but dont let it go on if u cant come to terms with this try to see a psychologist and they can help u with these emotions, but dont u EVER give up on your self or our lord and savior as he nor I will ever give up on You... GOD BLESS AND PRAY ......
2007-08-01 11:10:03 · answer #8 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People here seemed totally consumed with cheating husbands and low sex drive wives, so I am not sure you will get much support here in Marriage and Divorce.
Some people are not wired to deal with grief. Go to a grief counselor before it consumes you. Go see your pastor. My brother was very very active in his church and extremely religious, yet God decided to take him one afternoon while on a bike ride. Heart failure. If you put your faith in God, then you can't question his motives. If you don't put your faith in God, then you have to accept that people die, for all kinds of reason, good and bad. Cycle of life. In either case, you can decide if you are going to keep living, or you are going let this kill you.
2007-08-01 10:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said your faith was all shaken up. Do you think God let your mom die? My mother died of cancer several years ago. She knew without a doubt she was going to heaven. She was in alot of pain, and it was sad to see her that way. There are sad things in this world, like the death of a parent or a child. God never said there wouldn't be hard times. He DID promise that He would see us through these times. We tend to blame everything on God, when we should be thanking Him for being there for us to help us get through. It gives us a chance to get close to Him and depend on Him for strengh and comfort, and love. It's the evil spirits that want you to think negatively about God. You have to be strong in your faith and beliefs in God to win.
2007-08-01 10:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋