Recently, I've felt like that my friend hasn't been treating me as his friend. He's always said that he calls me a friend, but he hasn't been acting like it lately. Should I say something? I've really felt hurt, but I know if I'm *too* honest with the friend, it could cost the entire friendship.
2007-08-01 03:28:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hm mm. i think i know how u feel. there is always a reason why your friend is reacting this way. i believe that the best way to overcome this problem is to have a heart to heart talk between the 2 of u. for example, ask him why is he like that and open up what you feel of his actions.
i wish u all the best ^^
2007-08-01 03:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell him what's going on. Explain to him how you've been feeling, but be careful not to lay blame immediately. Even if the situation is clearly one where he is at fault, if you begin the conversation with things like "You've been alienating me" and "you've been ignoring me", he'll feel attacked and go on the defensive, and you'll get nowhere. Handling this wrong could end the friendship, but there are ways you can phrase your problems to keep things friendly enough, such as "I've been feeling alone lately", and "I've noticed you've been busy lately. What's been going on?" This last one is especially good, and if you keep it light and friendly, he'll most likely let you in on what's going on, and this can lead into a conversation where you bring up your concerns without fear of ending the friendship.
I hope this helps, good luck!
2007-08-01 11:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by katemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. If you dont communicate with your friend how will they ever know whats going on. If you have someone who is a friend that you can't be totally honest with then they were not a friend to begin with. You are hurting and I dont think its fair for you to go through another day in pain...
Good Luck!
2007-08-01 11:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jaycee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should open up about your feelings. Tell you friend what you are upset about. If you friendship can not take that, it may not be strong enough.
2007-08-01 10:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell my friend how i'm feeling. if you do, there's a possiblity that you two could work it out. just take it slow, since you're afraid of being to honest, but don't look to hesitant cause you don't want him to ignore you.
2007-08-01 10:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell what your feeling and whats been on your mind,that shouldn't make them upset unless you are really rude so try to sound to up tight about all of it and things should work out all right!
2007-08-01 10:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them about it ,if they are good friends they would understand that you have feelings also,if they can't understand that then you know that she is not a very good friend
2007-08-01 10:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by going crazy over you... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to say something if it it is really bothering u .if they r true friends they will understand
2007-08-01 10:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋