My husband and i have been married 14 yrs and for the past month he has been bugging me to try anal sex but i am to scared to try it..He says im a prude and a big baby and a little bit of pain wont kill me..He says as his wife it is my duty to please him and do anything he ask..Is he right do i sound like a prude and a big baby?
2007-08-01 03:26:39 · 18 answers · asked by nicole c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tired im not interested.
2007-08-01 03:36:33 · update #1
Fox i already said i DONT want to try it..How much clearer can i make this to everybody.
2007-08-01 03:40:34 · update #2
no you don't. do not do anything sexually you are not willing to do. i think it is in some ways our duty to please our husbands but it is also there duty to take care of us. Calling you a prude and a big baby is clearly not him looking out for your best interest. he's just being a bully thinking he can guilt you into doing it. Stand your ground and don't do anything you don't want to do.
2007-08-01 03:32:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If after 14yrs of marriage your husband is only now starting to ask for anal i think he is getting into porn. 15yrs ago there would be very few women that had done anal.Now with every porn movie containing some kind of anal men are continually trying to get there wife's to do things that they see in these movies. Do you now what a anal tampon is? if not go on line and read the stories of ex porn stars and gay men that need these things.Do what is right for you if your husband keeps insisting tell him you will bring a male prostitute home and he can have all the anal he wants.
2007-08-01 05:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by gordie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do this. Take a cucumber about his size tell him to bend over and he can go first. Im not joking. If he does then give it a try if he doesent tell him hes the big baby and its the last you want to here of it. No you are not a baby or a prude. And no its not your DUTY to do anything. If he loves you he wouldnt ask to put you through such pain.
2007-08-01 03:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by lyttledarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is trying to goad you into giving him what he wants. I am scared to receive anal sex (I bet he is too). Of course I have given had it with my gf. She seemed to enjoy it.
Anyway, I recommend you tell him you will CONSIDER it, but only after he lets you sodomize him. I think he has a duty to please you also. Make sure you tell him he is being a prude and a big baby when he refuses.
PS - If my gf had asked me to go first, I would not pursue it at all.
2007-08-01 03:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right to please him???? I would smack him, and advise how much you already do for him.
Anal is ok if you are relaxed. The second you tense up.... really painful. Some girls love it... I am not one of those girls. I do not think you are prude or a big baby. My husband askes me all the time and I just ignore him or say no. Then I came back with, that is fine, you do me... .and I get to do you. Trust me, he will not bother you about it anymore if you try to put something in there.
2007-08-01 03:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Va princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just are not into anal sex. And if he is pushing you, then he sounds like a jerk. You have no DUTY to have anal sex, if he is gonna start that crap, the bible wouldnt agree with anal sex, because it does not lead to procreation.....
Dont let him push you into something you are not comfortable with....
Lots of people like it though, and if you are at all interested....then you can tell him you just need to take it slow...there are books and websites that will help you out.
2007-08-01 03:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you don't not sound like a prude you shouldn't have to do anything your not comfortable doing ! if your husband is so interested in anal sex tell him to have someone try performing in on him . you never know he might enjoy that kinda thing
2007-08-01 03:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by wildone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to chill.
It is your duty as a wife to please him, but not at your expense of hurt, discomfort or pain.
While on your part, it might help you to read and study and get some books about this subject, to see that it might not be as bad as you think...
On his part, you can kindly explain that you want to "try" but, need to slowly make a transition into it. And... if you don't feel okay about it, or it hurts, then we'll call it quits and you're happy to meet his needs a different way.
The "duty" is to meet his needs as a husband, NOT to become a martyr in doing so. There are many ways to meet the partners needs, other than doing something that is uncomfortable. Gently and kindly remind him, that you are happy to meet his primary needs, but in ways that "turns you on" (which will not be a way that makes you feel uncomfortable). In general, if a husband knows that something "turns on" their wife, they would much rather do that. This way, you are doing a positive re-direction, rather than giving the appearance of negatively shooting down his need.
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2007-08-01 03:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anal sex is natural. If both parties are okay with it then do it. But if either is not (especially the female) the other needs to be understanding.
He's gone 14 years without it, I think he can live without it.
2007-08-01 03:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Toolman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is how he feels then tell him he must try it first... Bet he comes up with all kinds of excuses. Don't let him push you into something you don't want to do and bully you into it by calling you names. It is not all that pleasent in my opinion and if he was a good lover he wouldn't need to make you do this.
2007-08-01 03:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋