A question for submissive wives....?

Question

How did you become a submissive? Was it discussed, or did you just fall into that role, naturally? Anything you wish to share would be a bonus!

I'm curious as to how you keep your man happily satisfied and how far you will go for him...

Slam Dunk: I totally agree with you. My husband is the man of his house and I'm his queen....our relationship works harmoniously because of our distinctive roles...alot of respect is given and received.

I don't necessarily mean in a sexual way, ladies....for some of us, it's a lifestyle.....

Answer 1

You are an AWESOME wife! Just wanted to let you know that! Not because you want to be submissive, but because you are willing to put yourself on the firing lines of women's equality for a type of woman that BUILT America. The most strongest force in this country are wives and mothers like you!! Liberal media is attempting to make it a ghost of a bygone era, but thanks to women like you, this nation might still have a chance! Why? Because women like you raise our future leaders! Go get em' TIGER!

Thank you!!

C'ya

Answer 2

I don't consider myself to be all that submissive of a wife, but I think some might think I fall into that category. My husband has some very traditional ideals and I just went along with it because I love him and want to try to give him what he wants and needs because I love him. When you give a man a hold of the whip, he tends not to use it...in my case at least (and I don't mean that in a sexual way at all). What my husband likes is to know that I respect him.

I think a lot of marriages today lack respect. Wives think that THEY should have run of the marriage and treat men like dirt. Husbands get upset and do things to deal with that, and then the wives are wondering what happened.

I think there is a way that both parties can respect each other...and I feel that I have that respect from my husband. Just because I let him know that I'm going to do what he wants 90% of the time doesn't mean that he doesn't care about my wishes and respects them.

Answer 3

In my first marriage I was too submissive from the start. (Way too young to be married anyway...18) I fixed him breakfast in bed, picked up after him; well it was almost to the point of if he asked me to jump I would say how high. Then I woke up, blew up, and all was okay until the children. Things really went downhill. I'm in my second marriage now and we both enjoy pleasing and helping the other. (first marriage 15 yrs with a split at 7, then back) My husband and I have been married for 14 years now and I couldn't be happier. My ex and I didn't discuss, he just demanded, he felt that it was a womans duty and that a man was in control.

Answer 4

So many women see the word submissive as doormat. Nothing could be more wrong. Believe me, my husband would be the first to laugh and say that I am anything but a doormat. I am strong and very outspoken. NO ONE lifts a finger towards me. I learned all I needed from the women of my family. We cook, clean, wash, have children and love sex.

When I got married, I was different. I just grew up a little more and saw what worked in happy marriages and what didn't. I did see some women be doormats and that's when the husband would treat them really badly. Obviously those were not happy marriaqges as the women had a tendency to harbor a lot of anger towards their husbands. I turned to my grandmother who was a pioneer in her days. She was divorced because her husband hit her and she hit back. Same with my mom. Some guy hit her and she jumped on his back and did major damage (pre-dad era). I love to stay home now. I even homeschooled my 6 children (makes me a pioneer in my family too) and life could not be better...well it can but it would not be too much.

Being submissive is all about respect and love and honor. AND it goes BOTH ways!

Answer 5

I certainly do NOT take orders from my husband, but I do recognize him as the head of our household. We make major decisions together and we usually agree on just about everything. But if there happens to be an issue where we have different points of view, I will usually take his lead. We pray together and that helps each of us to be open minded to the other's feelings.

For example: We have two child and I've been pondering the thought of having another. My husband doesn't think it's a good idea right now - so I drop the issue. That's something I want his full support on. I'm willing to wait.

And like I said - I do NOT take orders. I just can't do that! And my husband is not overbearing and controlling. We work things out together. But letting his say be the final word on any matter lets him feel like the "man of the house". It keeps him happy.

But to be honest, I often persuade him with my ideas and let him think that they are his. Like if the trim on the house needs to be painted I'll merely point it out to him. He'll then volunteer to paint it. But if I barked at him about it and told him that he needed to paint the trim - he would grumble and complain and probably wait a year to do it. As it is, he thinks it was his idea to paint and eagerly reaches for the paintbrushes. So reply, "Honey, what a great idea!"

Answer 6

I very rarely answer questions based on this role playing nonsense.

Submissive wives? For that read : Cunning, deceitful, artful, crafty,liars and cheats.

What do you do with the thoughts that come into your head when you disagree with your 'king'?

You are prostituting yourself to him and the credit card companies.

Get off your backsides and get a living and earn your own money.

My husband and I do not need the umbrella label you shirk under to know that he has his roles and I have mine. But they are interchangeable because we are both full rounded competant, honest, mature adults. Both blesses with similar intelligence and health and physical abilities.

Yes he is stronger, and I have my talents and together we make a wonderful team.

I would no more expect him to wait on him hand and foot then we would expect me to.

AND I DEFY ANYONE OF YOU WOMEN TO TELL ME THAT YOUR MEN RESPECT YOU ANY MORE THAN MINE DOES ME!

And I don't have to fake ANYTHING!

How to keep your man happy? How does he keep you happy?

Would it be through mutual respect or because you are pretending to be something you are not?

You have fallen into the trap set by men for men - maybe you really are just very simple and it is the best you can do.

Lets see how long it takes for you gentle little wifeys to wipe this off the site in anger and spite because its a little too close to the truth.

Grow up and stand up and be strong, honest, loving, thinking women.

Not robotic slaves to men.

Answer 7

I was not raised to be submissive, so it is truly a challenge for me, but I wholeheartedly believe that a happy marriage depends on it. I was married once before to a man who wouldn't handle anything, so I automatically took on the dominant role. I hated it and resented him for it. My husband now is definately the more dominant and I know I can trust him to be the final say. He does, however, value my opinion. A lot of being submissive is allowing yourself to be a woman-and in today's world, that is not very popular. We simply have different strengths than men do. There are things that we bring to a relationship that they need, and things they bring that we need. Sometimes it is a struggle to keep my mouth shut, and I don't always succeed, but it is worth it.

Answer 8

To be a submissive wives is to understand her role. The role for male and female has not changed in the sight of God, only in the culture. Being submissive is not to be a slave, it is to be cooperative, understanding and caring. In every home there should be a king and a queen, what does this mean to you?

Answer 9

I think a marriage should be 50/50. But, we grow up with the man has the last say. My husband and I talk things out and normally we go with what he wants to do. As for being a wife who just sits there while hubby is talking and following his rules. I don't play those games. As long as hubby thinks he wears the pants.....lol

Answer 10

Submission does not mean dictatorship. But does include protection for each other and reciprocal. Remeber the Bible says that women be submissive to your husbans and husbands be submissive to your wives and men treat your wife like Christ treats the church- with toal and unconditonal love, laying his life down for the sake of all. Submission is respect for each other in all aspects, it is give and take, it is a protection/a covering, it is the irght thing to do!
That's is truly women's lib. Being happy and free to please your spouse and he do the same for you. Liberation does not mean beng selfish. It means no dictatorship. It means taking equal responsibility. If we want our men to "kiss up" to us then we should be willing to do the sam eor never ask for it. Spoiled and selfish doesn't work and somebody please look up the real definition of liberation and freedom and submission.......


Best of wishes to your happy home! God Bless!