if a spouse had a affair,should the marriage be ended?

Answer 1

I suppose it depends on the couple. But I couldn't live with a person who had cheated on me. I could never trust him again.

Answer 2

It really depends on the circumstances. Was it a true affair or a one-off kind of thing? Is it over? Was there an emotional attachment? Is there still? Did it end because the spouse found out or did it end on it's own?
Have you considered counseling?
People make mistakes. The question is: was this a mistake or a pattern of behavior? If the answer is that later, the marriage is over. If it's the former, you have to find a way to forgive and move on.

Answer 3

It depends on two things: one, if your spouse can prove him/herself that they've changed and that the affair relationship is truly over. That means, your spouse will have to have done something other than say the words, I'm sorry, it will never happen again. They have to stop all ties from the relationship, go to church, meet God, attend therapy, listen to tapes about marriages and infidelity with you. Second, it also depends on whether or not you can accept your spouse's version of the truth and accept the changes or efforts they are trying to make to repair the marriage. If you're unsure what to do, the best thing is to do nothing now. Give it 4-7 months of counseling and if after that time, you still don't feel right, then at least you can say that you tried everything. If however, you feel right now that your spouse, if given the chance, will cheat again, then get out now.

Answer 4

It would depend upon both people in the marriage. If the spouse that was cheated on wants to stay married and seek counseling to save the marriage and the offending partner also wants to save the marriage then it can be done. It will take some time. If however, the offended spouse doesn't wish to remain married to the cheating spouse or if the offending spouse definitely wants out of the marriage then the marriage should end.

Answer 5

I don't mean to sound conceited, but I've always known I was better looking than my spouse. Not that he was ever ugly, but speaking objectively, he was probably slightly above average when I first met him. He has not aged very well. Believe me, it wouldn't matter if he was drop-dead gorgeous, our marriage is still over. You poor pup! Doesn't sound like a very solid marriage you have there. It must be a drag being with someone so fickle and superficial. You, boring? I don't think so! ; )

Answer 6

If you can salvage the marriage, then do so.
However!!! If you decide to divorce, you will not be condemned, because HE/SHE has commited the sin, not you.
Adultry is the only grounds on which you are allowed to divorced in the Holy Bible, although you can divorced on virtually any grounds according to the Law. A good relationship is based on trust..he/she has betrayed that.
But try and stay married if you can. The relationship may never be the same.You both will really have to work on it.

All the best

Answer 7

sometime the other party paly a part for the affair,
try talk thing out first,
see how things can be change and make the marriage work,
ending the marriage does not help if there are kids,
think about it

Answer 8

Not necessarily - it depends on the cheating spouse's attitude about the situation. If they are truly sorry and have an attitude that they will do whatever it takes to make it work I'd give it a try, everyone makes mistake.

Answer 9

You can end the marriage if your spouse is not sorry for their affair, otherwise you should give them every opportunity they need to prove they are sorry, and that it won't happen again.

Answer 10

Only if you are sure you can forgive and move on. Things like this end marriages all the time, because it is so hard to forgive. But if you feel there is a genuine reason why this happened and you feel you can move on, then it is worth a try. You can always change your mind if it proves too hard.

Answer 11

All depends on the situation and how you feel about your partner... I think if the two people are sill in love and want it to work then they should stay married, only if there can be trust again and forgiveness. It will probably take a long long time until things feel normal again but if its worth it then give it a try.