So I kind of new I was pregnant since June but I didn't take the test until a couple of days ago. My boyfriend and I decided we are going to keep this child. The only problem I am scared about is that I have been smoking and I quit last night, but how is this going to affect my baby? WIll any harm be done?
Also, I do not know how to tell my mom. There is so much going on with my grandmom (just found out she has cancer) and a family friend passed away! I am only 20 years old and I know it is a big step to do this, but .. ahh I don't know!! Someone just please give advice, it would really be appreciated!
2007-08-01 00:40:28 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda F 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
When I was pregnant with my first, I smoked until I was about 6 weeks, I didn't know I was pregnant. He was born just fine with no side effects at all. My mom smoked all through her pregnancy with her last 3 and they came out fine also. So more then likely the baby will be OK.
As for telling your mom, I would just tell her. Your 20, its not like your 13. Having a baby is good news, so it might help her take her mind off of the bad news thats been going around!
2007-08-01 00:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Zahira B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my 1st at 20 and smoked before and a little bit at the beginning and baby was healthy 9pd. Just tell your mum. She is going to be a grandma and who can get angry at that. You are an adult and have made a decision. Tell her that you don't expect anything from her other than emotional support. Your grandmom is probably going to be thrilled that there is a baby on the way and so is your mum. Just pick the right time to tell her. Not while she is really busy or upset. Wait a week or two and then tell her. This way you are going to be in a better frame of mind and have time to rehearse if you are really unsure of her reaction. Don't make it too formal, just casually bring it up. And do it just you and her otherwise it gets complicated.
Good luck with baby and congratulations!
2007-08-01 00:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all try not to stress that could be really bad on your baby.
The smoking should not harm your baby since you have quit the earlier the better.
I am now 27 pregnant with my second child i had my 7 year old when i was 19 years old so i know how you are feeling. I had alot of people giving me their opinions of what i should do i even had some people tell me to give her up for adoption and one person said to have an abortion. I knew that i could not do any of those things my little girl is now 7 years old and looking back it was a struggle sometimes but i could not imagine not having her she is so sweet and beautiful. And everything always worked out. Children are such a blessing.
Just take your mother to dinner and tell her if she gets upset she will be ok. My mom and dad were very angry with me when i was pregnant but when i had my little girl they were ok and they have both told me that they are glad i never listened to them when i was pregnant because they could imagine not having her either.
Trust me it will all work out just follow your heart. It will be a little scary but its ok enjoy every min. of this pregnancy and get ready for your life to change in an amazing way.
Good luck hope this helps.
2007-08-01 01:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 9 weeks when I quit, because i didnt know i was preg till then...I was concerned to but the doc said to just concertrate on being healthy from then on. I wouldnt worry it is still early and babies have an amazing way to catch up if needed. I delievered a healthy happy baby, that is very easy going and never cries and has slept through the night (except when she breaks out of her swaddle) since 6 weeks.
As for your mom I think you will always be nervous, I was 22 and I was scared to tell mine. We were marrried and had good health insurence and were trying and I still dreaded the phone call to her. She was so excited though. Same with your grandma, I am sure even if it does not go well for her she will be overjoyed that she got the chance to see you pregnant and hopefully meet your child as well. The day my daughter was born a close friends mom passed away and it turned out I named my daughter after her(not knowing) and my friend was very excited, because her lilillian may have been gone, but mine was just born.
Be strong...If you are ready and willing it will work out just fine.
2007-08-01 00:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by jenna5miles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done NO damage to the baby yet, don't worry. By quitting so soon you have made the best choice for you and the baby. Remember, many of us were born to moms who smoked and drank every day and we turned out OK..Obviously we know better now but the 30 days you smoked are nothing to worry about. Have you called a good OB? YOu need a good caring DR on your side right now. I highly recommend an OB right away so you can get in and talk to her/him about your fears. Also, in spite of all the stress in your family a baby is a miracle, a blessing, and hopefully your family will see that. Maybe it was meant to be so your baby could meet grandma? You tell mom right away so you can quit stressing...my mom would be hurt if I was afraid to tell her, she's always said she'd be there for me. So try to let your mom be there for you. And whatever happens, give her time to adjust. And then...call an OB. Good luck and I'm rooting for you!!
2007-08-01 00:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by tyandtobesmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First lets starts out by saying congrats! Having a baby is a wonderful experience and you are a legal adult and if you and your boyfriend have decided upon keeping the baby and raising it together then by all means allow yourself the ability to be happy about it.
Telling mom........ alhtough your grandma is sick your mom is going to be happy for you. You are bringing in a new life and she is going to be a grandma now. Dont wait too long. Your grandma will also want to know because it might give her the will to fight her cancer even harder to see her great grandbaby being born.
As for smoking. No harm done. Do not drink. Your baby will fine. I know a ton of women who have smoked during their entire pregnancy's and baby was just fine... .and you stated you quit.. so good for you!!!!!!!!!!!
This time in your life is time for celebration. So start telling people and watch how happy they will be for you and watch the fight come into your grandma !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Again Congrats.... Since you got pregnant in June you will be due in Sept so I predict you will be having a boy.
2007-08-01 00:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by billies35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as you quit smoking for the rest of your pregnancy your baby should be ok. but if you are still worried see if your doctors can help you.
I'm sorry to hear about your grand mom. but maybe the best thing you can do will be telling your family you are pregnant. it sounds like they have had a few hard times lately. and a baby is a joyful event, im sure it will cheer them all up. this is what your family needs by the sound of it.
i hope everything goes well with your pregnancy, and i hope your grandmom will recover. best of luck to everything.
and go on tell your family about your new arrival!
2007-08-01 00:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by loziiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cigarettes affect birth weight the most. So if you have quit and stick to it, your child should be fine. It's hard to tell your family, I know I went through the same thing when I was 20. But think of the positive, your mom will have a beautiful little one to hold soon to help brighten her mood. My mom was upset for about 3 minutes, before whe realized she would have a grandbaby to play with! I think she was okay with it because she knew that even though it would be a struggle for my husband (then boyfriend) and myself, that we were capable of handling it. I don't regret it at all, and my daughter, now 11, is the light of my life.
2007-08-01 00:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by Daybreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 04:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by lepeska 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK congratulations on your pregnancy. First of all yes smoking is harmful but the you have given up now which is an important step.
And i would talk to your mum just blurt it out, this baby may bring great joy to your family in such difficult times, if you cant talk to her face to face write her a letter expressing your concerns my bet is she may react better than you think.
Babies are hard work and bring you heaps of stress but what people forget to tell you is how much joy they bring into your world...
good luck
2007-08-01 00:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋