im in love with my bf but my dad want me to get married to his sisters son im yet a minor but as soon as i complete 18yrs of age he will make me to get married to his wish. and i cant convince him . i want my bf .wil i get him
2007-08-01 00:14:17 · 24 answers · asked by nish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like the hollyoaks storyline, so just be brave and tell him no, you want your boyfriend, if he wants you to be happy, you must be with who you want!
2007-08-01 00:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by jame_football 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats it got to do with your dad who you marry?? Are you asian and have arranged marriages... Your dad cannot force you to do anything. You are your own person. Arranged marriages do work sometimes. but you have just described it that your dad wants you to marry your cousin.. did i read that right??
You don't need to convince your dad of anything. Once you are an adult sweetheart you can do what you want. And in my opinion you shouldn't be getting married at 18 anyway, its far too young. Refuse marriage. There won't be much he can do about it... You sound like you're indian or muslim... Ask your father if he would like to see his daughter unhappy??? You need some strength my love. You are the one who will be living with this man. he'll be telling you when to conceive next!.
And arranged marriages as i know of is also about choice. He sounds like he's living in the 1800's
2007-08-01 07:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your background I guess. Does your religion believe in arranged marriages? Arranged marriages wrong, and in this day and age we have the power to choose who we marry. No one can tell us who we can and can't marry so I suggest having a heart to heart conversation with your dad and trying to convince him that you are in love with another. However remember that even if you do love your boyfriend, it may not necessarily mean that you will get married. Life is unpredictable.
Good luck
2007-08-01 07:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Confuzzled - sounds soft =P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi
dear
still you are very young
and we dont know weather your boy friend is setteled in life or not
atleast does he have any job or not
if he has a job you are safe half the side
but think practical love is beautiful but life
think about that and make decisions
in love every thing will be good and it will be very beautiful and romantic but after marriage think, think twice before you do
take care this is the step which you can not change or take back in your life again
2007-08-01 07:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by padmaraj18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear nish,
If your father is bent on you marrying his sister"s son against your wishes,then it is wrong and you must tell him that.
You will get your boyfriend if he is equally in love with you.
If two adults get together ,then you can take a decision about your future.
2007-08-01 08:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by TIRTHANKAR G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm! Personally, I reckon you should be able to marry whom you choose..as it will be you who will have to live with it..
But I'm guessing you are of a perhaps Muslim or other belief that say's you have to marry, who your father choose.
But if you didn't marry whom your father choose. would you be excommunicated and if so, could you cope with the consequences?
Go with your heart, but remember you are only very young, don't rush into anything yet.
All the best
Luv
2007-08-01 07:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Luvly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fathers' sisters' son is your cousin! that is not right. If you live in North America, you can't be forced to marry anyone you don't want to. you are still too young to have a permanent relationship but if it is meant to be ,it is worth waiting for.
2007-08-01 07:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From this moment of your life you should decide yourself.I dont say you shouldn't listen to the others,but your husband is going to be with you in the rest of your life,so you have to choose the one that you are really in love with.I can just tell you be firm and choose your boyfriend.
2007-08-01 07:29:10 · answer #8 · answered by A.R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age, I lost someone that I loved simply because her parents wanted their daughter to marry someone w/more money or more prosperous. My advice to you would be to never give up on your boyfriend if you truely love him. But if he chooses to give in to his parents wishes and marry someone else, then he never truely loved you in the first place. A person who truely loves another person would NEVER give into someone elses will.
2007-08-01 07:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by civicnitro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you marry his sisters son, isnt that incest and illegal in all the states?
and he doesnt control who you marry! that stuff went out the window a long time ago. Marry for love thats what i say.
2007-08-01 07:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by mcheshster27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to break tatrions let ya pops know this is what you want and if not go and marry your bf when you become 18 on the low.
2007-08-01 07:17:54 · answer #11 · answered by msstockny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋